How much of your attraction to someone is founded on the joy, happiness; freedom from care, boredom, and worry they bring you? I have often asked people what they look for in a relationship. In every case they give a list of things they want – rather than a list of things they want to give. Relationships are more about giving than they are about receiving (or taking) – It’s The Secret! So many people in our world have it all wrong – which is why their relationships fail to thrive.