I’ve apologized many times out of fear rather than sincerity.

For some people it’s easy to confuse pleading with demanding.

In AA we’re taught that a proper amends is making things right to the best of our ability. As Kenny L. used to say “In Alcoholics Anonymous, until you take the horses back (you’ve stolen), you’re just a sober horse thief!

There is often some confusion about which amends we should and shouldn’t make when working the 9th step in Alcoholics Anonymous. The best answer I’ve found is ‘”You make the amends you cannot stay sober without making”.

If you cannot make an amends for legitimate reasons, make it where and to whom you can. For example, if you owe a financial amends that you cannot make to the person owed -use that money to help another in need. Trust me, God will appreciate it infinitely!

•Title credited to Dub Albritten/Ronnie Self… and sung by Brenda Lee (1960).