Look for a person with a big ❤ not a big house, or fancy car -as it was told to me a very long time ago… @ best, men and women are cut from the same piece of cloth (as much as certain would like to think otherwise) – @ best, from different ends! Men want things, women want things -and however meritorious one sides wants may appear to be (over the others), the flaw in both instances is “self-serving” by nature! Oh sure, many women want a monogamous relationship (unlike many of their counterparts). Sounds like a beautiful thing right? But what else do they want? Many women want to live well. Some flat-out want to look good (in their partners car, on their arm… -hey, don’t look at me, the fact that women are highly competitive, and egotistic -I got that from talking to other women).

Many women think men are stupid when it comes to understanding a woman -that is, figuring out what they’re up to. The weaker of the species always has to rely on intellect and/or cunning. Well they’re not gonna win in brute force.

People in the town I live in… call it racist, call it biased, call it prejudiced, call it gender-bias, age-bias… I see a lot of males in this town within a certain age group that act with hate towards one another, or contempt! They don’t act that way with children and they don’t act that way with the elderly. And I see the exact same thing with a large group of women in this town as well. They put up a front door a wall that’s not there with children and with the elderly. I see a lot of women drop that wall, but not (necessarily) the front with other women -peers. These are simple observations I’ve made over the past 35 years living here. Whenever I walk out my front door -and see my first human-being, I always wonder what I’m going to get; a smile, ignored… about 98% of the time I get ignored. I don’t experience these kind of lawpsided numbers when we go to California or to West Virginia -how did I ever end up in a place like this?

I notice a lot of times when a couple or a family are standing at the crosswalk and I stopped to let them pass – The man will say thank you and the woman will just walk past as if she’s entitled. Maybe we ought to work on that in this community.

I remember we (Ana and I) went to a ball game with my brother – Chargers versus Raiders, make that raiders versus Chargers as the Chargers were the home team for that game. After the big riot we proceeded to the vehicle and pull out of the parking lot – This woman steps out in front of the vehicle with her nose in the air, doesn’t bother to look either way or make eye-contact and communicate… my brother made the comment “She thinks she’s entitled”. Hey, he said it I didn’t! But I remember many times seeing the same scenario played out in my own town. The question is why? Why do people act this way? And why are an inordinate number of them women? Is it a cultural thing? As in the United States! Why do so many women refuse to acknowledge, or even use simple basic mannerisms when dealing with men? Years ago I told a woman she seemed bitter. Her reply “You men make us that way”. In another incident, I was at the Sam’s Club one day with Ana. This woman was coming down the aisle with a couple of teenage daughters… There was something about the look on her face that was reminiscent of women where I live as women as we were visiting the neighboring city that afternoon. So I was a little bit slow and moving out of the way from where I was standing as she approached me with her cart – She made no effort to slow down and I jumped out of the way and turned to her and said “you almost hit me”. Her reply, “I’m not waiting on no man”. This is the kind of attitude I encounter quite often in my area though it seldom reaches this to this level… What I’ve learned over the years is that there’s far too many of them to address!

Ana and I went to the Walmart here in town recently – We approached one of the aisles and there were a couple of different people coming from different directions. One young lady, Hispanic, about 38 years old looked at the 2 of us as we waited to allow her to pass -snubbed her nose at the two of us and walked past without so much as a thank you. The interesting thing is I had the same thing happen about 2 weeks earlier and I had already mentioned that story to her previously. For those of you who are what thinking I’m a woman hater… I’ll just say this, with regard to the bitterness and attitude of many of the women in this local area I must confess that from what I observed and heard through the years, many men in this area do not treat women with due respect. I have to confess, is an angry young man with very few scruples, I too am guilty of contributing to some of that bitterness and anger. 😔

I’ve never met a woman who deserved to get hit but I’ve met plenty who have who have asked for it! Some women provoke men into anger relying on the fact…. Daring them to…!! That’s not very smart! If I have an issue with a man much larger than me, depending on the circumstances I’m going to think twice about getting into a tussle – My old man once told me “choose your battles carefully -you don’t want to lose an eye for no good reason”.

All of these issues I’ve brought up come down to one thing – What do we do about them!