Some people can go through normal misgivings in their relationships while having the ability to repair or recover those relationships. Some people cannot. I’m probably one of them.
Probably rule number one and any relationship is accepting people for who they are come and where they are at. This is an issue I’ve struggled with throughout my entire life.
A lot of people, especially when they are young, fear going out into the world and facing company -not realizing in many cases it’s the competition that should fear them.
One bright-side to the decline of the world is -the level of the competition has dropped significantly. And now, following this global issue… 🤷♂️🤷🏻♀️
If you have not come to terms with the reality that the more you have come of the lesson one else has…. Our world is one big pie. Imagine being at a birthday party and when it comes time to serve the cake, 1 person decides to take 3/4 of it, leaving a quarter left for the other 30 guests. We don’t live in an infinite, limitless resource base. Although I honestly believe that if we only took from this planet what we needed, we’d be good for another 1000 years or more on resources which are limited. Endless in terms of those resources which are reproductive by nature.
You don’t need that many men if you have a great plan.
You don’t need a great plan if you have that many men.
And if you have both…
If Luke Skywalker and the Darth Vader could put their differences from the past behind them… 🤷♂️
For a person who is empty, chaotic, self loathing -there are a few things more difficult to endure than a peaceful, guilt-free, solitary lifestyle.
Sidenote: Stick an Acoholic in a locked room with one drink🤷♂️
It’s better to feel down and depressed about life seemingly going nowhere -than it is to feel shame while attemptiny to go somewhere.
A very young person and Alcoholics Anonymous once stated, they were bored. The sponsor quickly responded, “You’re not experiencing boredom, your experiencing serenity”.
“That I would become a nobody -and that my life would go nowhere”. “Oh, and being alone 🤔 -how could I forget”. My greatest fears have seemingly all come true. Yet in the midst of facing them -the greatest freedom from shame, guilt, remorse I have ever known has come with it -almost simultaneously. All the things I ever did in life to avoid my greatest fears -only brought shame, guilt, remorse.*
*And I DO NOT think I am alone in this! A lot of people have with fear, desperation -and don’t know what to do about it. I find life as it now is a struggle. But a more or less peaceful, guilt-free struggle. I know now why I tried so hard to avoid where my life has come to. I don’t believe I would have been able to handle it the way I am now -Barely 😔
Many people do not even know let alone fail to recall the old days calm the old ideas about marriage, chivalry, The honor of a woman… premarital sex -and the trappings of…
You see any women knocking down the doors of monasteries?
For the longest time I’d rather require things than memories.. Not surprising considering my relationship with others is not particularly blossoming. But that’s starting to change. At right around the age my father passed away-month away from being his exact age -October 23rd 2021
Imagine all the people you ever cared about gone. All the regrets. All The Times you took him for granted. Now take the feeling that follows, and incorporated into your relationships with them here, now, while later still alive.