I wonder why it is that some people know how to do everything right, but lack the ❤ lack the emotion. All other people don’t know how to do it right, but have the ♥and the emotion.

Again, some people make great first impressions pressions but did you get to know them over time… Some people make lousy 1st impressions, but as you get to know them over time…. Unfortunately the ones that don’t make very good 1st impressions don’t always get always get a chance to be known further. And the ones that do come many times the person wishes they never had given them that chance to get to know them further.

How is it that you meet some people, and fall in love with them from the start because of their physical beauty, but over time they only seem to grow uglier. While other people, you do not find particularly attractive physically, but as you get to know them,, you find them to be the most beautiful human beings you’ve ever known. And I’m not just talking about falling in love with her spirit or their persona, Their physical appearance begins to change change before your very eyes, in one case for the worse, and in the other case for the better. Amazing

There are so many connections out there we cannot see. Like for instance if we eat nothing but bread for 2 weeks straight, what are ALL the effects now, and later on as well, to our bodies? To our soul’s? To the impact on another human being around the world 20 years later? To matter on a microscopic level? To a giant star a million years from now?

I do not believe that something harder than a diamond cannot be created or does not necessarily exist. Nor do I believe that the speed of light is the limit that can be reached. Or that 2 things cannot exist in the same place at the same time. Or that something cannot exist in 2 places at the same time. If GOD deems it to serve a useful purpose.

Some people do not know how to… and that is why they are unsuccessful, that is why they fail. I believe that from watching many decades of television, I have a very distinct knowledge of how to succeed with human beings. But because of my traumatic [ongoing negative] experiences with them, I deliberately, perhaps on a subconscious level, choose to fail*. I BELIEVE THIS NOW WITH ALL MY HEART!

*Fail as in connecting.

Child molesters, murderers, rapist, they all have a right to earn a living regardless of their crimes!

Every Travis D of humanity starts with one human being taking taking the plunge. Adam-and-Eve. The gentleman who spoke out against out against creation in fact in favor of evolution and started a worldwide…Women who saw fit and remove prayer from schools…

Victim role, justification, blame, excuses, finger pointing, inventory of others… these all stand in the way of our progress individually, and in our relationships. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷‍♂️

The thing about people seeking their own justice is that they have no clue what the appropriate, adequate punishment is. In many instances, they don’t really care. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷‍♂️

One of the reasons GOD perhaps does not punish people immediately after committing a sin [and much to our own disappointment] is to give us the opportunity to atone, to repent -because like any good parent, GOD HATES PUNISHING HIS CHILDREN.

Most people will not persist in most endeavors if it’s not mutual/reciprocated -some will however. My grandparents would write me even though I never wrote them back.

If we only placed peace and serenity as a top priority for our own sakes alone, imagine how much trouble in the world would no longer exist. The moral of this story: People have to be willing to make, allow themselves suffer in order to bring suffering into the world, in order to make other suffer. For species which places so much emphasis on pleasure and comfort, don’t you find it interesting that so many of us are willing to sacrifice our own peace and serenity, so that others may suffer? SHAKES HIS HEAD 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Do you suppose the people in London England appreciate a Sunny day anymore or less than the people in Albuquerque New Mexico?

I wonder what percentage of the news which makes it to the public -is actually truthful. We have to be concerned with accuracy regarding the facts but we also have to be concerned with tampering with regard to the fact. What percentage of stories which are critical to various reputations and… where certain people stand to lose, where certain people stand to be hurt very badly, where the morale or the attitude of the general public tend to be drastically affected, what percentage of the stories that get out actually tell the whole story or the truth of the matter? What percentage of these stories actually make it into the public realm?

I’m realizing more and more that once victimized, how difficult it is to break away from that role. If you can do it, it is a milestone in your healing and recovery.

There have been times in my early life where I thought I was really in trouble -as a child, or a very young adult. The kind of feeling where you wish you could just disappear into the future 5 years later and it’s all over and done with.

By the time you chop off the lower half of the asparagus, and discard it, you’ve paid double the price for what you end up with.

Whether things around me are true or not, whether things going on in my mind are true or not, I need to put my best foot forward, bringing to the situation as much constructiveness, and positive energy as I possibly can, as often as I can! You see, it’s the lies and the truths that keep tripping me up. Resulting in a fluctuating resolve to apply the above in all my affairs.

What is the penalty for an animal killing a man? What is the penalty for a man wiping out an entire species of animal? What is the penalty for man killing a man?

Life, relationships are perfect even when we give a 100%. So what do you expect they are going to be if we give 50%, and, 30%, 20%… 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷‍♂️

At this point in my sobriety I don’t feel the need to stick up for myself as much as I used to. I believe that where we’re at in our lives, the stage we happened to be in at I’m going to be in at any given time, determines what we need to do for ourselves and what we can do for ourselves. I said in the meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous this morning that I mean that I no longer felt as much of a need to speak out against people who hurt me. Confront them. That I was recommended to do so for my own well being by friends however. It’s all my ego needed to hear. I took the advice, hurt my family, didn’t accomplish anything. Didn’t change them. Didn’t change the outcome. You can’t have a reasonable conversation with unreasonable people. But I think early on when my esteem was low, and I was full of fear, perhaps I needed to speak up for myself. See I was in one stage of my life at one point, and now I’m in another stage of my life. Fear and immaturity. When they run high… when they run low… Where were at [in our healing and development] largely determines how we are to react or act. Man, in most cases must, or will choose, to undergo a process [in stages]. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Use your mind to assist in making good decisions in all your endeavors, and if necessary, shut off your mind so as not to get wrapped up in the outcomes, in anticipation of the outcomes.

So I’m sitting in my aunt Uncle’s house with a bunch of family for Christmas, for Christmas, things are being shared and behaviors beand behaviors being displayed here in their, and of course my alcoholic brain is firing. Sometimes you just gotta shut things off. 🤷‍♂️

For many of us Alcoholics who are continually monitoring, evaluating the attitudes and behaviors of those around us in an effort to calm our fears, in an effort to wring some joy or happiness out of an otherwise drab, or gloomy outlook, AN ATTITUDE, A PHILOSOPHY OF “MAKE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS” CAN DRASTICALLY EFFECT THIS TYPE OF TENDENCY OR RELIANCE, OR EXPECTATION.

Don’t let malicious, condemning thoughts fester.

Alcoholics have to deal with life, their own basic human condition, and their alcoholism.

Took me a long time to reach a point where I wouldn’t lash out at people for doing things which hurt me. I would still go to people and talk to them about the hurt I endured. And then they would say that I should have spoke up for myself -which is all my ego needed to hear. I figured even if things don’t workout, even if things fall on a deaf ear, I needed to speak out if only for the principle of the thing. Now I’m beginning to realize:

•That outcomes do matter, sometimes more than the principle of the thing.

•That its pointless to speak out against people calm even hurt people if it’s not going to change anything for for the better for all parties included.

•That it is better to do our best to make things work between ourselves and others, and perhaps more often than not, that means keeping our thoughts and our feelings to ourselves.

•Just because I complain and criticize, in most cases doesn’t result in people changing, people change when they decide to.

•Hurting people gives them a opportunity to rebel, to justify their actions and thus avoid change. Anger and resentment fuel stubbornness and egotistical attitudes. While taking one on the chin often fuels guilt and remorse, which are the avenues for seeking change.

•Do you want to be right or do you want to get along with those you care about, and have them remain in your lives?

Make it work!

There is an epidemic of taking one another for granted going on in this country right now. Most of us passed by one another and pain no mind.

Peace -of-mind, serenity-of-heart!