You start getting aggressive with people [or anything else negative] and people will start getting aggressive with you, and:

1) You may not always come out on top;

2) in spite of your own about face, others may not be so willing to revert.

I hate to break the news to you but in most cases the girl God created for you is not the prettiest in the room, Not these used to get along with, not the shapeliest, She may not even be pretty by your standards, but she is the one God decided was best suited for you. And as for you women, Ditto. And guess what happens when we choose some one other than the 1 God is chosen for us? You miss out on many if not all of the things God intended for you to come about through your experiences with this person. And remember happiness isn’t everything and there are more important things in life than happiness. If God wishes a particular person to be happy above all else,, then happiness is 1st and foremost with regard to that person.