●Just continue to be good to her
●Compliment often
●KEEP things light
●ALWAYS strive to be THOUGHTFUL and HELPFUL
P.M. Personality and maturity play key roles in relationships -beyond most people’s comprehension!
Responding to a problem in a relationship by only making things worse -doesn’t accomplish anything productive. And it’s usually a matter of personality or maturity
It’s tough going through life not having Faith that GOD exists and is going to take care of me and; having Faith that people exist and that they’re going to eventually hurt you, or let you down! IT’S MISERABLE!
When something is already hot and you apply friction to it -ouch!
My Uncle is not a bad person; He’s just not a very nice person. Thank you my loving GOD!
☆☆☆☆☆Man is bigger than nature so when man chooses nature as his higher power what is he really choosing what is he really hoping to gain from this?
Man is often most consistent when it comes to collecting debt and revenge. That tells you something about humanity -When our most consistent attributes are negative or what’s in it for ourselves.
Man is constantly running around trying to change things; trying to avoid things… Meanwhile, GOD is sitting up there knowing exactly what it’s going to be. There just seems to be something very ironic or futile about the whole thing. That is to say, when man’s will is not in line with GOD’S anyways. Oh I suppose i could add a couple more… That is when it serves no purpose or does no good!
People replace people they shouldn’t all the time!
Man constantly struggles between what he wanted what he needs; And is constantly confused and/or lies to himself about which is which.
The thing about having such a powerful technology in place in our country is that people who run them and have access to them change continue. All you have to do is get one wrong person in there. That is the main reason things were not allowed in the beginning with his country. But we seem to have lost sight of and are too trusting nowadays. Or we feel powerless in the country that was built on the average citizen having power.
You can take a very long time to get to maturity as an adult –if it was lost or misdirected during the course of your early years.
The more GOD gives us; the more we must become able to be OK with it [not deserving but OK 👍🏻] -for if we are not…
It’s better to trust people and find out you’re wrong than to mistrust them and find out you’re wrong. The way of the spirit versus the way of the mind and the body.
You are either looking for something that isn’t there, looking for something that doesn’t need to be there, looking for something that shouldn’t be there. 🤷♂️ People who missed out on life seem to have a tendency toward “the above”.
Some of the greatest songs ever written were never heard by the public.
“You don’t think you’re fine, you don’t think everything is fine… but trust me, things are far finer with you and with things then they are with a lot of other people who think everything is just fine”!
“A lot of people out there could come up with a solution if they only knew what the problem was!” 🤷♂️
A lot of our attitude towards life has to do with where we’re perched in regard to whatever’s unfolding before us. Below, above, eye-to-eye, out in the open, hidden-from-view… And a lot of it’s simply perception -our own.
Everything experience goes to our mind. Not everything that is happening goes to our mind. And a lot of things that aren’t happening go through our mind. All of this creates our experience and our perspective -SORTA
Just because you can’t see the forest from the trees doesn’t mean you can’t see the forest or the trees. So don’t sell yourself too short.
Disabled people feel more disabled or less disabled around different people and places with people.
FACEBOOK “You have to keep in mind Rick “You suffered severe trauma in your past -so be gentle and understanding in yourself. You’ve come a long ways with yourself -and now is the time to begin the journey of coming a long ways in your relationship.””
FACEBOOK “A lot of people feel like you feel in your relationship. So stop feeling abnormal. Stop questioning your feelings. Moods…”
I wouldn’t mind having a prosthetic arm or leg if it were joined to my flesh and allowed me to perform better. But then again…🤷♂️
When working with somebody at a company who offers you a possible alternative and an attempt to be helpful… always thank them for making that effort and recognize it recognize it as a thoughtful alternative even though you are choosing to do or go another route. Don’t simply dismiss it because it’s something that don’t wish to consider. We have to build each other up and how else are we going to do it? While you are you thinking of 🤔 “other things” -always be, first-and-foremost” MINDFUL OF YOUR FELLOW MAN!
FACEBOOK “If you approach life from the vantage-point of what’s in it for me -the opportunities are “hit-and-miss”.. If you approach life from the vantage-point of what can I contribute to it -the opportunities are endless!” 🤷♂️
FACEBOOK “You get the feeling that man doesn’t want to put his best foot forward -You look at what’s going on in Washington and you definitely get the feeling that the best people for the job itself are not being placed. There is some other priority taking precedence in these decisions.”
FACEBOOK “If I have any delusions; it’s not about man -IT’S TOWARD’S GOD and my own inability to trust in HIM!”
FACEBOOK “In certain companies, the things that people are being paid to do don’t always turn out successful. It’s kind of understood that in these areas of vocation there is no guarantee. Except for the paycheck. Now you can set up a business or vocation in one of these areas and make a living off of them without actually being successful or even expecting to be successful entirely. That’s a very interesting concept for creatures who along with many good attributes have very low ones as well. The lower ones might be inclined to venture into this area and without really even having much thought to success… make a living. Some of these ventures are quite lucrative actually with regard to either dismal or unexpected successful 8. You mean I can set up a company and even be more unsuccessful than successful and make a d*** good living? Wow!”
FACEBOOK “What is the quotient for human beings being reliable:
● For failure in situations beyond their control
● For failure and situations due to human air?
● The 2 combined?”
FACEBOOK “Along with the fact that about 50% of the universe seems to be limitless and the other 50% seems to be limited, we should have figured out by now that there is a GOD that exists which created it that way for our own benefit!”
FACEBOOK “These people you loathe so much, have you ever stopped to think what they are a product of? How you might have a hand in it!”
FACEBOOK “If all I had was $20 in my account, and you were starving -would you want me to be willing to make that sacrifice [ABSOLUTELY!]? 🤷♂️🤔 “If all you had was $20 in your account, and I was starving -I WOULD MOST CERTAINLY WANT YOU TO MAKE THAT SACRIFICE!” 🤷♂️🤔
FACEBOOK “That’s the kind of s*** that irks me. It used to be you get a discount and then pay the taxes on the difference. Today I got charged for the full amount the tax and then they took the discount-what a bunch of c***. I think a certain department store I used to do business with onorregular basis did the same thing with their rewards program along with cutting them in half. Going from 200 reward points for every $100 spent to 100 reward points for every $100 spent. People always looking for what they can get – It’s not as if they were offering the 200 to be generous in the 1st place and then they lower it down to a 100! It’s all a lure -AND WE ARE “THE FISH”!“
FACEBOOK “You can be 5 steps ahead of someone intelligent -you will always be… behind with regard to someone who is ignorant or stupid.”
FACEBOOK “Oh, I’m sure I have contributed to some bitterness, and some fear in the world.” 😪 HUMANS
FACEBOOK “If you could be anyone, who would you [choose to] be?”
FACEBOOK “There are extreme examples in the world of how to be and how not to be. Which ones do you tend to pay the most attention to?”
FACEBOOK“There is desire and then there is want and then there is the will. The will is limited only by the man himself.”
FACEBOOK “If man would only stay within his own boundaries. But he just can’t seem to do this consistently. Hence, all the mayhem! All the bedlam!”
FACEBOOK “It’s good not to think too highly of one’s self -or too lowly. GOD’S handiwork?” 🤷♂️
FACEBOOK “It’s taken some time for society to raise their prices to the point where people will pay whether they want to or not. It’s unfortunate to this the way things are operating these days.”
FACEBOOK “You look at man and how he does so many things needlessly.”
FACEBOOK “Ever since man stopped hunting and fishing for game out in the wild -he has turned to [ON] his fellow man more and more!”🤷♂️
When I was younger, I tried to measure a ring on a ring sizer and the way that I did it was to take the far edge that landed on the measurement and then move up to the center of the ring and adjust that way. Maybe we are stuck with a certain level of intelligence or IQ that cannot be altered. But most of us have never had the sort of experience from the very beginning that assures we are at all times at “our full potential”! So we are constantly playing ketchup -which only gives the appearance that IQ can be increased!
FACEBOOK “Doing things the right way doesn’t always work with regard to the results we are looking for; and the responses we are looking for; from our fellow man. We have to do things the way they make sense to others or benefit others* because that’s the way man thinks. Because that is where man happens to be.” 🤷♂️
*You think you’re the only one that does things in such a way that they put off others; or leave them puzzled? Man in certain ways is not a very open creature to, shall we say –deviations; deviants -even though he himself is one –having deviated from “GOD’S PERFECT PLAN FOR HIM” TIME-AND TIME AGAIN!
** I don’t look at things or do things the way a lot of people do -as a result of spending a lot of time alienated from my own kind.** I don’t look at things or do things the way a lot of people do -as a result I’ve spent a lot of time alienated from my own kind.
FACEBOOK “TWO people both maintain the right attitude in a relationship -and it will likely continue. But man all-too-often struggles to maintain that right attitude. It comes and it goes for him, with him.” 🤷♂️
FACEBOOK “My family doesn’t treat me like i’m special! This is a huge mistake! It totally screws up the potential*!”
*And isn’t that what certain people want? Isn’t that advantageous to certain people? JUST A LOAD OF CRAP!!!!!!
Make every part of your relationship count, matter -don’t use filler!
What happens to people when you take away the struggle to survive?
Man constantly seeks change in this day and age. So what’s next? What are people themselves gonna start morphing into? Morphing into at their own hands -not GOD’S! IMPROVEMENT, NOT SIMPLY CHANGE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!
If you look at some of the things parents manage to get right with their kids, the results are amazing. Just imagine some of the other areas where they got wrong -and how their kids could have flourished as well.
one if the virtues, and benefits of FAITH is that it STRENGTHENS US! Worrying therefore tends to weaken us!
Love the soul not the attributes! Shallow people look for attributes; they’re always looking for “better”! Or is it “love the attributes, not the [stumped]. Love the attributes, not the “selective-window-dressing(s)*”.
*The things we can basically put on and take off at a whim -to gain or to avoid in the moment!
In a system such as ours change is constantly required. Some might consider it improvement -but is it really Improvement? Improvement only applies to self while change applies to things!
There’s a key ingredient to long-term sobriety & a key ingredient to long-term relationships.
I don’t trust people, and; I don’t trust in people to be able to recognize in me anything of value [to them].
“LET THE GROUP STAND UP FOR YOU!”
● I’d rather be with you than with my fanmily
● You say you’d rather be with me than have to work but you don’t have a choice there -you have to work
● You are very sad about going to Albuquerque for a couple of days and being apart from me but I didn’t see that in your eyes when you talked about going on a vacation
● Now there’s a new wrinkle in our relationship. My family doesn’t create any limitations in our relationship but yours does. My family doesn’t take away from me our time together and now we’re finding out that yours will. Even more so in addition to the limitations already in place. You never have to worry about me being taken away from you for any extended period of time with my family because we don’t have that sort of relationship.
● You’re establishing relationships with your family while mine is in complete disarray. And I know now that I’m never going to have that relationship I’ve always wanted with these people and my aunt and Uncle will be dead within a couple of years and it will never come to pass that I will have that relationship. It’s like relieving the reality of having to accept never having that relationship with my parents.
● We had established that we are each other’s primarily. And then there’s no other place we rather be. While you’re out with your family enjoying life I’m gonna be here all alone in this hole.
● It’s not that I’m not happy for this taking place in your life and for you and your family but the above are certain realities that I have to face myself.
● And then are there going to be black out periods where we can talk. Or are there gonna be hours with your family where you’re not gonna be picking up your phone and talking to me? Because it would be inappropriate or rude? I was at the bank for a couple of hours even though you didn’t know what was going on but still we were disconnected for 2 hours. And as you stayed it that’s not normal between us. I want to maintain the integrity of this relationship no matter what’s going on in either one of our lives.
● We have 2 different sets of circumstances and maybe we have 2 slightly different sets of attitudes as well. I wouldn’t rather be with my family for a week than with you. And I don’t see my relationship m -Quality of my relationships with my family improving under any conditions. I’m an outsider of sorts to these people. And that makes the relationship with you and myself all the more integral in my life.
Which is worst, being told a lie; Or being told a truth you really don’t want to hear? A lot of people will tell you they’d rather hear the truth. But their attitudes and their actions say otherwise. And most certainly their responses to those truths. You have to remain mature and reasonable if you truly claim you are a seeker of truth.
Insecurity is seldom about the incident or situation itself triggering it. It’s about something either much deeper. What about a lack of adequate securin the relationships surrounding the incident which boils over and rears it’s ugly head. Make sure you have adequate measures ofeeling safe and secure in your relationship, and these situations or incidences will be for the most part contained. This indicator so to speak. At least that’s usually the case if there are no major deep seated unresolved issues that really do not stem from the actual relationship you’re in itself.
There are 2 kinds of special people: The kind who are special that we may or may not even recognize; And the kind that are special only to us because of the way they strike us personally. But it’s a real shame how many people out there who are truly special never really strikes as such.
One of my most horrifying fears; My girlfriend or woman being raped and not being able to resist at some point enjoying it. A lot of rape victims suffer great guilt from their body responding passionately to such an assault at some point.
👫“AN ODE TO US” 👫
“When a person places a lot of stock in their relationship versus someone who doesn’t place a lot of stock in their relationship. A different set of dynamics takes place and therefore a different set of foundations need to be laid for each. Some people would say the former is considered needy or unhealthy. But I think a lot of the latter relationships don’t last either. They’re more free-wheeling, and therefore have less of a foundation. They also tend to be less messy or entangled, OR CONNECTED [ah yes that’s the word]. The former require a lot more work and are a lot more complicated. At least it is so in the beginning with a deeper and broader foundation where more planning and work is required. This type of relationship is not only more challenging, but is also more likely to bring to the surface weaknesses and issues within, and between the parties involved. It’s a very difficult and challenging thing to try and live with and/or create this type of relationship. The demands are far greater, and far more frequent. I think it’s safe to say that most people not only do not experience this type of relationship, but are not even interested, up to the mark regarding the effort required! And again, and of course… There will always be those that can not even begin to comprehend such a relationship; it’s nature; it’s purpose; the effort involved; the dynamics behind it! 🤷♀️🤷♂️ Therefore, many people on the outside looking in [supposedly], will attempt to interfere, even dissuade it’s MATERIALIZATION [special relationshis tend to stand out; even make others uncomfortable]. And finally, if one of the partners is not on board with this type of dynamic, they too will attempt to dissuade, or interfere with the progress of the other who is all-too-willing to attempt to take “their relationship” to a much deeper level!”🤔
When you are walking along a curb you experience a particular emotional sensation. When you are walking along the same exact curb with a 50′ drop rather than a 6″ drop, you experience an entirely different emotional sensation. The same could be said of the above. The more stock we place in a particular relationship the greater the level of emotional sensation, and therefore fear!
The broader and the taller the house calm the broader and the deeper the cement foundation must be.
There are 2 kinds of people in the town I live in: The ones that have something to give and the ones that have little or nothing to give. Since my experience is that the vast majority of people here don’t give then I can conclude from that that people either don’t have to give or don’t want to give in this town.
FACEBOOK “Learn to appreciate both sides of yourself.”
FACEBOOK “Don’t get down on yourself because of “other people” or “circumstances”.”
FACEBOOK “It doesn’t have to take 30 or 40 years to resolve our issues with our dead parents IF WE TRY HARD ENOUGH. But it most certainly can take that long, or longer -IF WE’RE NOT WILLING TO. We humans can very easily, and quite commonly -LIVE WITH ISSUES LIKE THIS THROUGHOUT THE REMAINDER, THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRETY OF OUR “NATURAL-LIVES”!”
MY MIND IS NOT MY FRIEND! TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE , GIVEN MY EARLY DEVELOPMEMT -MY MIND, OR WHATEVER THAT THING IS THAT SHOULD BE SOLID AND CONSISTENT IN ME, THAT IS IN ORHERS WITH SOUND EARLY DEVELOPMENT, DRIFTS IN ME!
2x2x2 rule:
●Sometimes you have to get up while your being hit, life stops for no one but as we get better, we stop manufacturing problems, we start manufacturing solutions.And we get
●Resentment or life gets so much better;
●Don’t take full advantage, or; take on too much, too soon;.
●AA is either a step down, a step uo, or a way thru [but if you never experience that by getting on board with “the suggestions”], or; they’re here for not the best reason, and never quite find one that allows then to stay! There’s no WRONG REASON for coming in, but for staying in… 🤷♂️🤷♀️
● I think some people get sobriety confused with life. I love sobriety but sometimes life sucks. People who get the 2 confused often throw away the one good thing in their life that they have going for them.
Aside from manufacturing problems ourselves, whatever’s gonna come Addison life is gonna come and our only option is to get into the problem or get into the solution.
Sometimes the a******* out there in the world win and sometimes the good hearted people win.
You are either in charge of it or it is in charge of you.
A kindly attitude towards others! A kindly attitude towards others!
When your relationship has received enough on your part to sustain it or make it great -then just keep on giving to it even more -DON’T STOP THERE! That’s the mistake man always makes when he sated. Very few people ever reach the top because they settle for being satisfied or for simple success according to the wrong definition.
Some people in this country make way more money than they should while many people in this country make far less money than they should. And who gives a d*** except for the people making for less?
●The world is shit, atleast here;
●Can’t trust my own mind!
● Oftentimes my mind is my own worst enemy!
●What is the world? It is a place basically comprised of need. Anything comprised of need you will be hard pressed to take anything away from. So a world comprised of people in need -really are not likely to get much from one another. And therefore they will run around largely deplete it unless they find another source which is not in a state of need but a state of abundance -GOD!!!!!! NEEDY OR GREEDY!!!! 1/3rd needy; 1/3rd greedy; 1/3rd relative-highly thoughtful or giving.
Man is notorious for taking his foot off the gas in direct proportion to as things improve or he gets his way.
In business man or a new company lores you in with great deals and then gets rid of the great deals after you do business with him and get them where they at -on their feet. Up-and-running so to speak! And now as always, they’re always adding more rules and restrictions and obstacles Now every time you make an offer on eBay or a resubmit account or offer you have to be directed to PayPal to… Sign in; what a pain i* t** a**.
The more freedom you give a society the more freedom that is going to eventually be taken away because people cannot conduct themselves properly and because it only takes a small percentage of people for the whole to begin to lose privileges through carelessness and recklessness and exploitation. You want to give me your take one more time on how wonderful the human race is?
“WE SHOULDN’T GIVE UP SO EASILY ON OTHERS -if we hang in just a little longer -THE RESULTS WILL AMAZE U!” OFTEN TIMES TOO -WE DON’T ACTUALLY GET TO WITNESS THE IMPACT OF OUR CHOICES ON OTHER LATER ON DOWN THE ROAD -BUT THAT’S OK “MISSION ACCOMPLISHED” JUST THE SAME! 🤷♂️
I have a mind that constantly thinks I am [still] being cheated in life [hence, the chip on my shoulder]. I have, in reality, 🤔 BY GOD’S GRACE been “in the green” for a very long time”. My mind, ego… is always looking for… is always preparing for things that have yet to materialize. Often times they never do. Renew my mind has been a struggle!
The appropriate feeling for the life that I have today should be -A FEELING OF SAFETY, AND JOY. When I was drinking and drugging I was looking for a feeling of safety and joy when in fact those would not have been appropriate feelings at all -small wonder they “continued to evade me throughout my drinking” [and for many, many years thereafter].
It can take a very long time for an abused, traumatized individual -to believe they are safe and being ok with feeling happy.
The way John Nash figures out his mind is lying to him and the way I figure out my alcoholic mind is lying to me it’s through a similar vein-that is a future events, depictions. John Nash eventually figured out the people he sees do not age. Well I am beginning to figure out that the things I continually worry about ALMOST NEVER COME TO PASS AND THAT -I AM TRULY SAFE IN GOD’S 🤲
Historically speaking-the world is not always kind to passionate people!
A lot of people don’t know what they have in their partner and in their families and in their friends. It’s a pretty big problem for we human beings continually.
We can’t see the future and we can’t see and other people’s hearts and often times we can’t even see our own futures and into our own hearts -which is why it’s so crucial that we count on God!
So if a fetus is not considered alive until a certain point in the pregnancy if someone kills it it’s not murder?
Prayers quite often are to determine the good in our heart and that we are on the side of GOD rather than to tell God what to do – To take the position we know better than GOD!
We live in a country that teaches us that things like safety and happiness are synonymous with money and materialism. We can see all sorts of fall out from this kind of manipulation or brain washing.
So the vast majority of humanity either, feels or is taught to have little or nothing to offer, has something to offer of little significance or depth, or has something to offer but are selfish or greedy with it.
The program of Alcoholics Anonymous ive heard it said- is a marathon not a sprint. Many people think things should be a certain waywrite from the get go. People get discouraged when things don’t happen in a timely fashion. They get even more discouraged when things don’t work out the way they want them to because many a person’s idea about sobriety, and the world in general and their idea about God, is that he is here to serve our ones and needs. Plan for us is to be satisfied not to grow or to grow in a deeper relationship with him. Becoming stronger in addition, requires resistance and stress. Something many people have little interest or tolerance or simply disdain altogether. I certainly had a plan when I came in to Alcoholics Anonymous and it wasn’t to become stronger, growing character, or have a deeper understanding and relationship with this God – I simply wanted to be successful at all the or felt I had been wrongly or unjustleslie robbed of. Exactly like a greedy child with his Christmas list. And children of course are not interested in character building, sharing/constant thought of others, building stronger or deeper relationships consciously. All these things were true of me, and many more in fact!
Some people are selfish; some people are insecure; some people are selfishly-insecure.
People are always going to do what they’re supposed to do or fall short of what they’re supposed to do. Those are the only 2 options. Exceeding what you’re supposed to do falls into the category of doing what you’re supposed to do. It certainly meets the criteria anyways. And both of those scenarios are rampant in our society and among our species.
People either don’t think of people at all or they think of them in genearl ways and then rarely think specifically or personally of an individual. This is my experience in the world. A lot of people don’t think of me at all and others think of me along with the general population while very rarely does anyone think of me specifically or personally. Try to think of others personally.
There should be consequences not rewards for wars -people getting rich during wars is b*******. And what about all the people that got rich during the depression while people starved and shouldn’t and shivered in their homes because they couldn’t afford heat during the Winter. Those people could have given back all that money and helped those people. Some in fact did -but many didn’t.
Some people have a gift for matching calamity with Serenity, while others have a gift for matching Serenity with calamity!
WE HAVE TO LEARN WHAT OUR LIMITATIONS ARE IN TECOVERY!
I don’t have to prove how strong I am; I have to prove how wise I am.
Life shows us where we are weak, deficient, ignorant.
Maturity and principles not personalities- Dale
One of my weaknesses is that I don’t guard my Serenity or my peace of mind very well.
People quite often prove to be either an obstacle to us or a temptation for us!
Constantly look for what you can feed your relationship not deprive it of. If we took this approach to the world be a lot greener and Fuller rather than wilted and withered and Brown.
I think we get too carried away with accountability in this country. The idea that everyone has to carry their own water equally. Not everyone can carry the same amount of water. And I think the system should be serving the people not the people serving the system. Internet for that b******* about the system protecting one part of society by or at the expense of the other part of society.
Use us instead of me and we instead of I more frequently
If God wants you to have that penny, you don’t have to go far. If God doesn’t want you to have that penny you can scour the entire globe and never find one. And sometimes God wants us to scour the entire globe defined one.
Problem with people is that we’re not merely flawed, we’re devious! I think most people at least at 1 point in time or another have been devious. And with many -more than one time in their lives
Don’t judge others/Judge others as you will be judged: Doesn’t mean merely not in that particular situation – It means period!
A lot of people can’t function on a level they feel it’s necessary while allowing themselves to be emotionally invested in life and in their various relationships. So is that any better than someone who’s struggling to function because they have allowed themselves to be open emotionally to life and to theirquestion mark Is one anymore or any less than the other? Personally, I think people who function at a lower level but allow themselves to be emotionally connected to life and to others it’s a step ahead. But we people don’t think in terms of that sort of character we think in terms of performance and survival and getting what we want for ourselve Even though we’re cutting ourselves short when we block ourselves off emotionally we’re really getting the shorter end of the stick.
In a society such as ours that has transformed itself into a profit based entity more and more – What if it doesn’t cost much more to make Walmart chicken versus Kentucky Fried Chicken and yet Kentucky Fried Chicken taste so much better and people are charging so much more? Does that sound right to you? If someone for example can make something great out of something far less costly, should they be charging far more?
Should I get penalized through the law for the act or the outcome of the act?
Sometimes GOD gives us what we want sometimes HE wants us to grow or sometimes HE just wants us to want him instead. OR SPARE US! 🤷♀️🤷♂️
When we don’t get things our way what or how do we respond in our character? These experiences, more importantly -are about us and what’s going on inside of us and who we are inside.
Material things will make a grain of sand on a beach in an ocean of GOD’S LOVE -let’s go swimming instead!
Can’t have everything! GOD is working to meet the “wants and needs” of all HIS children -not just you or me! 🤷♂️
The universe is neither imprecise; nor shallow!
I’ve always had a problem with placing Serenity and Happiness as a priority in my life! Or perhaps I have struggled to allow myself to experience them.
You go to a pawn shop or a thrift store and there’s always something somewhere in that building that’s just a killer deal.
Nobody knows everything about humanity but GOD!
Jesus knows who GOD is. As if he could explain it to us. He stated it would be impossible for us to understand. I think this was in reference to the soul actually -can you imagine GOD HIMSELF!
Perhaps the most difficult time for an alcoholic or addict entering into recovery is the time between not being on drugs and alcohol and not really fully grasping or being familiar with the principles which make life bearable.
How many times a week do people go to the bank? How many times a week do people go to church?
Is that really true? That toilet bowls in the northern hemisphere turn counter clockwise or flush counter clockwise while toilet bowls in the Southern hemisphere turn or flush clockwise? Or is it a ploy to see how gullible people are so that when something beneficial or exploitative comes along they can do the same thing?
Dangle a great deal in front of an American and someone will snap it up! Just go to any pawnshop and watch “the good sh**” fly off the shelf!
When you make or have a lot of money you tend to spend or waste a lot of money. But then you end up regretting it when it’s all gone.
Some outcomes are about relativity -relativoty that teaches us about other things, and people and their true place in our lives and in our hearts!
LEARNING & LIMITATIONS
How you see things is what got us in this mess.
Life teaches us about ourselves.
When an honest man does business with a dishonest man who do you think is gonna get the better part of that deal? A parent always gets the s*** into the stick with their child.
A lot of women will choose a man whose character and personality we’ll eventually leave them wanting and unhappy if that man can offer them considerable comfort in a monetary sense – This too shows a lack of character and a degree of shallowness on their part as well.
I WANT THINGS EZ
Spirituality is about love not fairness or Justice.
The world is filled with many people who are needy and who are takers. If you’re not doing anything then you’re just being taken or not being given -and after a while that becomes very very depleting.
Life teaches us where our weaknesses are; and our wounds!
Compensation
The line on the bell-curve of humanity is slowly moving to the right.
It’s an old trick -the more you have the more your worth! PURE NONSENSE OF COURSE!
A person who can turn down more than what he needs… Something ever I much need to work on!
GOD doesn’t punish people for being DOORMATS!
Spirituality is about Love; not about fairness and Justice!!!! justifiable anger? Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
I’m f****** angry and I don’t like being in this f****** place called the world! I don’t like being outside of paradise! In a lot of ways the world isn’t a very nice place. Well there’s something wrong with being unhappy with your circumstances out of a lack of gratitude; There’s nothing wrong with being unhappy with your circumstances for at times being a bit angry but having to exist on a plane of edistance lacking, largely lacking in love CALLED “THE WORLD”. JESUS, during HIS time down here on Earth was often dismayed due to the lack of love don’t hear constant and abundantly present in Heaven! JESUS, during HIS time down here on Earth was often dismayed due to the lack of love don’t hear constant and abundantly present in heaven! Sometimes I want to be compensated. And the other day I missed out on a huge one! And I was very angry about it!!!! I keep running into anger, neediness, unmet need and the anger that ensues because of it! People who don’t have anything to give and people who do but don’t want to give it… It’s not that anger is a bad emotion or even the wrong one, it’s just not the best one -especially for us Alcoholics. It’s better to be sad or better yet, to feel pity for the world And to feel pity for ourselves; when we lack the ability to bring love into it.
GOD doesn’t want to punish us, HE wants to save us -Which is why HE is slow to anger and why so many of us are angry that he is slow to anger when it comes to punishing others and so fearful when it comes to punishing ourselves
If man can’t refrain from taking the 1st drink what’s he gonna do after hes taken the 1st drink? After hes been inebriated? If man f***** u* in the garden of Eden what’s he gonna do out here? Where he doesn’t have everything at his beckoned call?
Spirituality is about love; not about Justice and fairness -although from what I understand “GOD HIMSELF eventually gets around to that as well!”
A lot of times thugs don’t even care if their thoughts or suspicions are grounded in fact. They’ll just lash out at someone regardless -if they even think…
A KINDLY ATTITUDE TOWARDS OTHERS
Achieving SERENITY & HAPPINESS while existing in “the world” is one of the most formidable challenges MOST OF US WILL EVER FACE! I believe alot of it has to do with what we rely on and what we place importance upon! If I want to be SERENE & HAPPY place my Reliance upon GOD not people; place importance upon A LOVE FOR YOUR FELLIW HUMAN-BEINGS 🌹and not upon a love of thngs! 🤷♂️
If all I wanted to do was look at my own life today, I believe I would be very happy granted I’m being reasonable in my view of it. But I want the world to be included! And that…!!!!
I want everything!
The human condition and dilemma:
●We are weak
●Something is in fact preying upon us
●Does GOD really exist; and if so HIS thinking seems to be very different from ours [HIS position (vantage-point; predicament…) as well -which often brings separation, not unity; loss of Faith rather than an abundance of it 😏😪].
●Oftentimes we resort to “substitution”, “coersion”, “dominants”, “violence”, manipulation”, “selfishness”… and so forth -this, as much as we want to believe otherwise, leads us umaway from the solution and towards graver and graver problems!
●Our fear of retaliation when fighting evil!
Too many [different] things going thru my head; too many of “the wrong things”; hence, too many deviations from THE DESIRED, THE REQUIRED MINDSET, AND THEREFORE THE DESIRED MOOD, THE REQIRED MOOD! 🤷♂️
Some of us don’t fit or get along well in the world because of who we are; And some of us don’t fit or get along well in the world because of who others are.
“To us PAIN sux; to GOD… of course from where we’re sittin’, we can’t for the life of us “but WONDER” what GOD MUST BE THINKIN’!”
GOD has nothing to fear, Doesn’t need to worry about food or shelter or clothing…
When a person comes to know what true heavenly Bliss is, this no longer is all that appealing to them. But many people don’t know or don’t want to know because they don’t want their bubble burst. Many humans are like that!
While living sober is normal; the state of the society we are living in today is anything but! I’M GOING TO GO OUT ON A LIMB AND SAY THAT OCCASIONAL FRUSTRATION UNDER THESE CONDITIONS IS NOT ONLY NORMAL, 🤔 BUT PROBABLY UNAVOIDABLE -perhap even healthy! BUTT -the principles GOD [JESUS] has given us are our SAVING-GRACE! THE WORK UNDER ALL CONDITIONS TO LEND COMFORT; TO BRING RESOLUTION TO OUR TROUBLES INSIDE AND OUT! 🤷♀️🤷♂️
The problems that linger in us tend to be the one’s we’re either comfortable with or in survival mode with! 🤷♂️🤷♀️
☆☆☆☆☆Sometimes I feel I’m not very considerate of you!
☆☆☆☆☆@ Sam’s “Going in with me Hunn?” “Wherever you are I want to be!” 05/06/23 [taking in Juice, cranberry].
Everyone I grew up with was hard on me; and easy on themselves!
The great thing about the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous is that we get to come in and practice everyday.
What was that thing I asked you to remember baby? Once you reach the top you keep pushing for improvement when there really is none needed. Make a lot of times we are conditioned depending on our background, to improve just to get to where we can be a part of something and be relatively successful. But once we reach that point we feel the need to continue because we don’t realize we reach that point or that we’ve reached the point God hand store for us. This is particularly true in the world where people would have us think that we are the problem when in fact we are not. When we are raised to believe we are the problem then as adults even though we may have resolved the problem, whenever there is a problem we go back to thinking we’re the problem because it’s our default position.
Feelings are almost always accompanied by attitudes and actions whether those feelings are positive or negative.
It’s hard to have a caring attitude towards humanity when you don’t think much of it.
None of us can love like GOD, but some of us come closer than others.
Wanting something-for-nothing is a character defect. Wanting something for less than what GOD deemed, is a character defect! We should always strive to pay “the worth” of something to that or those which possess it!
Things like food, sex… are not supposed to take the place of GOD or Heaven – A man just can’t seem to help himself, trying to get back to paradise or to a Union with GOD [the feeling one experiences] through substitution.
So is acting a demonstration [staged demonstration] of the spirit as it “should shine thru” in each of us?
I wonder if Atticus Finch ever had occasional, typical thoughts of women as other men do?
Humor and truth – are tricky things indeed; you never know how people are gonna react to either.
Good looking man, open, intelligent, functioning… what more? I only had one of the 4 for the longest time in the results where women were considered are evident-dismal failure. You have these things and women are all over you. Most women are not into charity or empathy or pity or even giving up their programming in order to be with someone who can’t give them that even though the other person may want it more than they.
Man tries to create despairity between himself and his fellow human beings. Even God-created disparities among men. After the fall anyway. But I think he has a different intention in mind.
Are you truly better or is the [new, or differing] situation or relationship you happen to be in -just not agitating you’re issue any longer. Additionally, A lot of people think they’re over a resentment until they get around the person they’re resentful at again.
if you basically have positive experiences with human beings it’s appropriate to like humanity and if you have basically negative experiences with human beings then it is appropriate to have basically negative feelings towards Humanity this is something that therapist don’t understand when dealing with the laughter.
Even if it’s on the people you love which cause the pain or the break up, don’t drill it into them like I did that it was them who were involved -don’t do it!
One key to human relationships is that a lot of people in a lot of areas of their relationships don’t want healthy, they want what they want or what makes sense to them!
When life was very unfair to you as a child, the idea of facing unfairness and injustice in adulthood does not appear to be very appealing!
Some people are highly successful and/or good at life………………………. The thought of a GOD either way would never even cross their mind!
FACEBOOK “Everyone in relationships have problems -but some people in relationships are the problem. Do you recognize the difference? Do you recognize the difference in your relationship?”
FACEBOOK “When is the public going to start fighting back? AFTERALL, ISN’T THAT APART OF “AMERICAN TRADITION”? I don’t care how comfortable I am, if something is wrong -I need to fight back!”
The normal reaction to an abnormal situation can be or leave someofeeling erecting at normal. People in the town I live in including my family that never treated me like the person I should be treated as Tom and in later years as the person I am. A normal reaction to that is to feel a sense of myself based upon how I have been treated. The abnormal fall out to that is that I have no word for myself even though I am a good and decent human being. That’s the abnormal effect even though it’s a normal response. Rocky had a reaction to being deceived -he stopped believing in himself. I have had a reaction to being deceived -i stopped believing in myself.
Americans notoriously have low self worth. Because we don’t get self worth from amassing riches and accumulating things; we get them via spiritual principles.
It’s every human being’s responsibility to embrace the truth regardless of where or whom it comes from. This game people have been playing for a decade now about it’s your truth not mine. Yeah well when it’s not the truth and you’re telling it as the truth calm and then sure it’s your truth not there. But when you’re speaking the truth it’s not your truth it’s everyone’s truth -whether they like it or not, whether they wish to embrace it or not!
Man does good but he seldom does best because it costs him too much.
Can you imagine the face of a human being you’ve never seen before? Can you create the face of a human being that doesn’t exist?
Selfishness, and not being thoughtful of others in the most obvious and appropriate of times, are very ugly traits indeed!
The truth is the only way to a better quality of life. People’s quality of life doesn’t improve because they refuse to embrace the truth.
Some people have great empathy; others appear to have none at all!
Some men love the truth; some men hate -everybody else seems to land somewhere in the middle. It is always like this with man!
It true, what we are doing -how we feel being conveyed thru actions is the most powerful thing. Human beings often times can touch one another where even GOD CANNOT HUNN M&R 👫
Being raised with not the best moral examples, 🤔 is not the best excuse for going thru life without them! 🤷♂️
My Mom I barely knew; My Father I wish I never knew -sorta! Would have been better off not knowing!
How can somebody recognize or be astute enough to recognize style -when they’re not even asute enough to recognize quality? I don’t recognize what’s in [style], I recognize what’s beautiful!
Satan can always count on many a man to be unwilling to risk losing what hes got in the fight against evil.
With everything we gain in life and everything we lose in life commas sometimes it’s difficult to come to the conclusion that we still have so much to be grateful for. That we’ve come out ahead.
The only thing we really have control over is whatever we happen to have at the moment and whether or not we want to give it away, share it!
People who help others and do for others and support others have a lot in reserve. Now you can walk around feeling depleted and still do these things but I think most people who are effective have a belief and a reservoir and a storage of something or some things that they draw from in order to do and give and support and protect others effectively from their circumstance.
A negative attitude towards anything stems from a negative relationship or experience with that thing projected outwards from within us. Remove the self from this particular dynamic -the negativity ceases.
It’s really strange to me that to have a lot of nice things all you have to have is money you don’t have to be a good guy or a bad guy. In man’s world it doesn’t matter if you deserve something it only matters if you can pay for it!
The bad guys kill the good guys and the good guys kill the bad guys and they’re all criminals just the same. And the main difference in all of it is money and manipulation and God. People with a lot of money who are inclined to manipulate their way out of the situation have a better chance of going on punish. However, God sees the hearts of men and therefore the motivation of men.
I think I have a tendency to take things to heart as all men should if they are operating according to GOD’S plan. How else is man supposed to take necessary action without feeling as such? How can man accomplish anything or become anything or be in union with anything without depth of feeling? A lot of people go to psychiatrist because they feel too deeply. But I don’t think that’s the problem. I’m thinking that in my case I have to be careful about what I expose or subject myself to because the depth of feeling can become so overwhelming. Can also become so intrusive as to affect everything else in my life. I think the answer is to limit what I am exposed to and not to address so much the depth of feeling in itself as problematic. I think for me what’s most important is what I allow myself to be exposed to as intended by GOD -and then be able to feel it at depth as intended by GOD! This being the case, anything I allow myself to be exposed to I will feel at depth. If I am haphazardly failing to direct this gift [or simply uninhibited] properly; I will be experiencing depth-of-feeling about things that are perhaps best avoided. Afterall, I’ve never been able to temper my feelings about anything I felt strongly towards. I think people approach [address] the same thing above in different ways: If happiness, or Serenity, or freedom from anxiety is a priority to someone and they’re gonna take measures to adjust the exposure in their environment in order to secure these things. Since these things have never been a priority for me it’s probably a indication is to why I have allowed things in my life to affect these things adversely for so long. A lot of men not so much avoid circumstances as withhold feelings about the effects of the various experiences and circumstances they expose themselves too. But they also end up dealing with the withholding of feelings through various unhealthy means. Since I’m not dealing with my feelings in an unhealthy manner, aventing them continually. And since I’m not doing a very good job of curtailing my exposure, and I’m not ealing with these things in an unhealthy form, I feel the continual need to voice them. But this seems to be having an adverse effect on me and Maggie. So the solution has to be to curtail the exposure.
Children gravitate to things, toys [afterall, don’t we encourage this]… when adults display this phenomenon -its an indication of a developmental issue is it not?
Is being successful merely about what you do, or does it [also] have something to do with who you are and what you are? Or with something in regards to the individual beyond these things themselves?
PROFIT [NOW] vs PRIDE [YEARS AGO IN BUILDING SOMETHING].
People were very unfair to me I was sure of it growing up. So the idea of letting GOD take the lead, rather than taking matters into my own hands among human-beings who almost always tend to skirt things just a little bit, or alot in their favor, my attitude was A] fuck that B] now that I’m an adult I can insert my own will!
When people speak in a meeting who are interesting, or funny, they are less inclined to het “cut-off”. This is bias at its best!
Sensitive versus frail. Some people are very sensitive but they’re not frail.
If you’re gonna go through life basing your approach to people on the ones you feel comfortable with and the ones you don’t feel comfortable with, you’re in for a long f****** haul. People in places like New York and Los Angeles have to learn how to deal with all kinds of different people and rightly so. People in the town I live in are highly insulated and feel that this does not apply to them. They’re very insulated in their… they’re very insular in their… Besides, going through life with an attitude that this person is worthy of my attention and this one over here is not -is a bunch of b*******. And yet many of us go through life sending out that very message even though they will argue that’s not the message they are trying to send out. A rejection of other people is a rejection regardless, get it through your head and grow up and learn how to broaden your circle of humanity.
Nobody ever treated me extraordinary in my childhood -which is why GOD I think in part has granted me something extraordinary in my adulthood.
Some people will defend themselves when feeling threatened but they won’t bother whatsoever with others who are being threatened whatsoever -which are you?
I’ve had people a hell of a lot smarter than some of the people in this meeting tell me they liked what I had to say -probably humbler too.
I’ve been in a lot of predicaments a lot of other people have found themselves in, but I’m not drunk on some street corner or dead like many of them! I suppose that gives me a slight advantage over some of you here today are not drunk, not dead, who haven’t been in those predicaments.
Some people have no clue what it’s like to be alienated throughout their lives -from humanity!
Everything is relative. The price you and I will end up paying for something is largely determined by how large a group are willing to pay a certain price. And in this country since human beings no longer work together and think about their fellow human beings…. That presents a problem for many of us. A beautiful woman’s attitude is gonna be largely determined by how a certain group or percentage of men treat that woman. If they spoil that woman then she’s more than likely going to be snooty towards many of us or have expectations or feel entitled.
Among other things we human beings are notorious for inappropriate responses. Responses that don’t lineup with with they’re responding too. In addition, we human beings are notorious for harming each other.
If you’re not having an impact on people with what you’re saying then why are you saying it?
According to the law which is more believable, to witnesses who are liars and thieves or one honest person?
If we don’t do our best; If we don’t try our best how can we ever hope to succeed?
If we took the same approach to a math problem that we do life; We would never get the answer right in most instances. Oftentimes man only seeks to come close enough to serve his own needs.
Man all too often is willing to work for his wants not his needs – I think that’s largely the case in American society. Well he has so much of what he does not need at his back end call!
A person is an alcoholic synonymous meeting who says what most people want to hear is less likely to get cut off for going on than the person who says something most people do not want to hear.
I move people when I speak. I have a tendency to rattle their foundation -some people don’t care for this much. And I need for you to shake my foundation when you speak -otherwise, what am I doing here?
If I have a problem with certain people-it may not be all me or all you!
Some people can’t help but be moved by kindness to such an extent that they let their walls down, that there are less apt to be selfish and stingy. Is this the case with all people? I haven’t noticed that to be the case with me personally. But maybe it’s because I don’t rub everybody just the right way! I’m just wondering if everyone is vulnerable or prone in this manner. For some it’s a pretty woman. But that’s not exactly what I’m talking about here.
One thing Vegas is good at is making sure you’re not guaranteed to win. But with a few simple calculations you can sometimes find a c**** in that armor. But should that be Vegas’s approach or should they simply lay out the odds as they should be? Otherwise aren’t they fixing things? Bedding is supposed to be about fair odds not about ensuring you come out ahead. If the bettor were doing this they would be arrested for illegally… So how is it OK for the house to do this? Is gambling fair or is it fixed?
I heard a woman in a meeting say many years ago “I may be powerless over you -but your powerless over me”
People either get encouraged or discouraged in their bad behaviors by others. When police for example don’t do their job, they’re encouraging bad behavior.
A person who is bolstering your ego is not necessarily your friend; A person who is deflating your ego is not necessarily your enemy. I do a real good job of deflating people’s egos; But in the program of Alcoholics Anonymous isn’t ego deflation what we’re striving for?
There’s a difference between telling people what they don’t want to hear and discouraging them!
Sharing with people what they don’t want to hear isn’t the same thing as discouraging them. Although people can get discouraged tearing what they don’t want to hear.
I don’t come into a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous to listen to what I want you to tell me!
The next best thing to taking something back -which often times is impossible, is to show deep remorse. The worst thing is not to be willing or able to do either.
FACEBOOK “People want things to certainly before they’ll come out of their shell in many instances. Women are particularly this way. This attitude often creates a separation. The last thing we want or need is a separation, any more separation among us!”
It’s not hard to outgive most people in this country
We either feel inferior or superior among one another unless we are consciously fighting against it.
No one human being should be afforded too much power. Then we don’t have to worry about the Anti-Christ. So long as we had here to this one rule.
Do people who were molested or traumatized sexually in their childhood engaging from a security to dilute the effect of what happened to them? Like an alcoholic who drinks among other alcoholics to dilute the notion that he has a drinking problem?
If the police don’t like the people they are serving, do you think they’re really going to do their job well in that town?
Things like fear and mistrust are not immoral for simple in and of themselves. It’s how we respond to them that is often the problem.
Animals have a tendency to get spooked. I feel I am experiencing a similar phenomenon.
● Horses and deer for example can get spooked whether there is a real danger or not. Whether it’s a hunter with a rifle or someone simply hiking the woods, horses and deer are prone to get spooked and will react instinctually;
● Whether there is real danger or not.
● All they have to do is have one negative experience with mankind, and they will react with fear throughout their lives. Humans often undergo numerous negative experiences with our own kind.
● The difference between horses and deer and man is that horses and deer and man fear man -horses, and deer, unless domesticated, don’t require human relationships. They can commune with their own kind. Man on the other hand, hurt repeatedly by his own kind is an entirely different matter.
■So, does therapy and counseling go against their natural instincts? Is that why the successful rates are so dismal? Should we just go with what our instincts are telling us?What nature is telling us? Is therapy, and counseling ~in my case~ just another wrong way for society to make a living/money? Should I just go with what my instincts are telling me and stop fighting it? My instincts are telling me to tread very carefully around mankind -yet I have desires for:
•Commradre
•Intimacy with a woman [emotional, physical]