Have you got it firmlyimprinted upon your psyche what that special person in your life doesn’t like about you and what they do?
When the people closest to you do things for you, do they say they do it because they love you, because you matter to them, or do they say it because you did this or that for them previously? Do they ever do something for you simply because they love you?
Mistreeting people you care about as a big no no!