What I never heard in counseling calm that is until this last go round recently. With all my complaining and criticizing of the world around me… “You’re right, you do need all these things that are lacking in your life -and you are right to feel the way you do”.
Remember how they were telling parents that it’s not the amount of time you spend with your children but the quality of the time you spend with them -to appease concerns (guilt) regarding the wave of two-income families that came into effect in the late 70s…? 80s? Well now we know that’s bull…. When I started counseling the big thing was Bradshaw’s homecoming and self-parenting, self-nurturing… There is probably a lot of validity to all event. A good balance for any human being is the right amount of self love, the right amount of other love, and the right amount of godly love. But I never heard anybody in those counseling sessions early on talk about the necessity of love of others and the necessity of love of God. If you take those two experiences as a whole, one could argue:
•There was justification, if not prompting for the breaking down of and down of the family in the late seventies, eighties…
•And the same could be said of the breaking down of the social ties in America. “Who needs other people, I can love myself”.
In both instances, has America become better, stronger based upon this reasoning? I do not believe so! Have our children become better adults and members of society as a result? Have we become stronger, more cohesive as a nation as a result of these philosophies/theories? Again, if I played the devil, and my aim was the break down and destruction of mankind, this is what I’d be whispering in your 🦻(hearing-aid)*.
*America’s still the best country in the world – Being the best isn’t necessarily saying much these days! How long are we gonna ride those coat tails?
** When our grandparents and great grandparents started saying “What’s wrong with this new generation?” We really should have stood up and took notice! In a way they did it to themselves though. The people that came out of the depression and World War II, and vowed their children would never suffer the same pangs. They took away the very things that made them the people that they themselves were proud to be! 🤔 …and 👹 scores again!!!!!!