FACEBOOK “When people care; it matters!” IN MEMORY OF MY DEAR FRIEND LENELLE
FACEBOOK “How can a person complain who has gotten more out of you than you have out of them? Some people manage to!”
FACEBOOK “It would not be entirely accurate to say that the world is filled with “takers”. But to say it is filled with “takers” and “non-givers” is more to the point.”
FACEBOOK “Don’t we all live in the same world? Then why so many different attitudes?” 🤷♂️🤷♀️
Being drunk all-the-live-long-day, doesn’t leave much room for truly taking in ALL THE VARIATION life has to offer. Eventually, the variation itself begins to DWINDLE!
IN THE BEGINNING -i was afraid “the steps” wouldn’t work! I stalled, dragged out…
FACEBOOK “We live in a universe where [some] things work based on action: not attitude; or belief; or even FAITH*!”
*But you have to figure GOD being spiritual… That most things would operate off of an attitude, or belief, or Faith!
FACEBOOK “Most of us have no clue; the extent to which IMMATURITY effects our world!”
When we’re renovating… things always look worse, before they look better!
FACEBOOK “Sometimes the lies we tell ourselves 🤔; turn out to be “the truth”!”
Not our plan; GOD’S PLAN! Flexible/Teachable! To grow in the likeness of our CREATOR! As long as we continue to do THE [next] RIGHT THING” THINGS will continue to get better! One day a gal walked into the rooms of AA and said “I don’t know how you people do it”.
FACEBOOK “Most of my life people didn’t want me; but what do people know!” 🤷♂️🤷♀️
FACEBOOK “If we keep doing the right thing, things will continue to get better even when they don’t appear to be -IT’S THE LAW!”
FACEBOOK “Artificial disadvantages COVID-19. Artificial advantages COVID-19. Things that affect ensuing generations at the dna level. Things that could bring about further evolution of man artificially rather than voluntarily. No more wars? No more breaking of laws? No more pain and suffering at the hands of one another? People no longer able to compete financially and monetarily and materially because of biologically imposed disadvantages?” SIDENOTE -IF GOD WOULD NOT VIOLATE MAN’S FREE-WILL; THEN WHO ARE WE TO DO SO? 🤷♂️🤷♀️ PEOPLE DONT HONOR THIS LAW BECAUSE THEY FEEL THAT “GOD DOESN’T HAVE TO LIVE DOWN HERE AMONG US -WE DO!”.
FACEBOOK “Something appears to be interfering with the maturation of adults in this country. ANY OLD ADVANTAGE WILL DO”.
It took 33 years of failure, and loneliness, and pain for my attitude to begin to turn around so that I could actually participate in a real relationship.
FACEBOOK “One can begin to see how the increasing lack of respect for the law could eventually lead to the persecution of Christians who personify the ultimate law!”*
*Right now there are probably more Christians on this planet than non-christians. In an order for the persecution of christians to take place, you have to figure that there has to be a shift in those numbers over time. Which is what we’re seeing more and more of. Can’t even find people to fill the role of priests anymore.
FACEBOOK “A lot of people have this idea of what success in sobriety is – And when it doesn’t pan-out, they think sobriety is bunk. But that’s their idea of what success is in sobriety – not GOD’S! Think about it!” 🤔
FACEBOOK “They don’t put poor people in charge because there would be nothing left for the rich people [because poor people would have actual empathy for their “fellow sufferers”] .”
FACEBOOK “The system is slow to act because the system isn’t the one getting screwed over -people are! People who don’t have a say so! Now that makes a h*** of a lot of sense! They don’t put poor people in charge because there would be nothing left for the rich people. The people at the bottom you have contact with at corporate America don’t have the power to solve your problem much of the time. The ones that do, you can’t get in contact with. And if you can -it’s a hassle and a 1/2 to get there. How many times have I heard in the last 10 years “We can no longer do anything because the system will not allow it”. Then why are we being forwarded to people who can’t do anything to solve our problem? The human factor is being removed from the process. Actually, the people on top who don’t want to be charged, or take responsibility for errors on the part of their company -are the ones [in certain instances] stepping in and taking the power away from the bottom level. Because the people at the bottom often times have a sense of justice or fairness or a regard for old-fashioned customer service. You don’t have to be a genius to figure out that this is being phased out, or taken out of the hands of the average American consumer who simply happens to be working for these companies -people with empathy”.
Man has a hard time of it regarding whether it is GOD talking to him or say Whether it is he lying to himself or he telling the truth to himself.
FACEBOOK “Two types of struggles: Hard times and harsh treatment. One is it the hands of man; The other can be lessened with the help of man.”
FACEBOOK “Man has always been inclined to do what he wants to do; rather than what he needs to do. That’s what was so special about turn-of-the-century America. The undying sense of loyalty, and responsibility, and ability and willingness to follow instruction!”
FACEBOOK “Sickness in man, this is “the root”! The more sickness that envelopes, engulfs mankind on this earth… the worse things are going to get!! WE MUST RESIST!!!!!!” 👊👊👊👊👊
FACEBOOK “I’m so tired of these apologies from these companies when you can tell by their voices there’s no sincerity in them -aren’t you? All this lack of any real integrity is GETTING VERY OLD! I mean do you remember the days when instead of apologizing -people made it right! That’s integrity!!!”
FACEBOOK “It’s no secret, trying to create advantages over one another. But it used to be that people took advantage of opportunities as they arose -They didn’t create advantages that usurped ethical & moral boundaries [atleast not as a common practice]. But that apparently seems to be going out the door.”
“My family is like the mob -it just dawned on me! No matter what you do for them if you are not a full blood member you’ll never be entirely accepted!”
FACEBOOK “Man wants mercy for himself and those he loves -and Justice with regard to those he cares little for.” 🤷♂️🤷♀️
FACEBOOK “IF THERE WAS NEVER A “GARDEN-OF-EDEN” 🤔 THEN WHY ARE SO MANY OF US [IN THIS COUNTRY – THROUGHOUT HISTORY IN FACT] “HELL-BENT” ON “PARADISE” [WINNING THE LOTTERY]?”
FACEBOOK “It’s better to be mistaken about being able to trust someone [and be hurt or screwed over], then to unjustly accuse [and hurt] them!”
FACEBOOK “Man quite often is a troubled, problematic creature -to himself, and to his fellows!”
FACEBOOK “What I want to know is what good are we doing one another personally in this day and age -MONO Y MONO?”
I’ve known for decades about the clickish attitude tegarding certain people in Alcoholics Anonymous!
FACEBOOK “There’s two kinds of people in the world:
● The kind who make things easier for those around them; ● The kind who make things harder for those around them.”
You can’t make up other people’s minds about how they feel about an individual just because you’ve made up your mind about them.
FACEBOOK “Not only should we not retaliate against those who offend us; We must extend our hands to such people -if we are to ensure peace in our world and unity among our own kind.”
FACEBOOK “Long after you get better [should you make the choice to set out on such a long and arduous journey]; THERE WILL CONTINUE TO BE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WHO AREN’T! People who will continue to bring problems to you and to the world.”
If people knew what the world was really, they’d never leave their homes.
Very few people are capable of true love. Is it any wonder so many of us are so skeptical?
FACEBOOK “Some people; some people for example in our families -choose to remain sick because of the warped, inferior benefits of doing so!”
Everything is all right Rick -because you are living right!
At what age for example at 60 resembles your age as a youth as far as your strength and stamina?
2 things we sure about in meetings:
● Alcoholism [in the book]
● Anything threatening oir sobriety [anything -which many people have a problem coping with; they 🤔…].
FACEBOOK “Don’t you just love a person who complains about the person who is at poverty level getting a $1000 stimulus check while they and their spouse making a $150000 complain about not getting theirs? Wouldn’t it be better to let it go -and let the person below poverty get $2000 in stimulus? SOME PEOPLE MAN! I can’t for the life of me understand why people making a $150000 are even getting a stimulus check – Explain that one two me? What, they need help with stimulating the economy two?”
FACEBOOK “Too much of something and we humans are inclined to take it for granted. At some point we have to utilize conscious effort to counter this. Perhaps this is why God is not more liberal. Too little of something and a couple of things come to mind that can have: We can become obsessed; Become overly attached; OR 🤔, consumed.”
FACEBOOK “It’s utterly amazing how often man buys into his own nonsense and paranoia and arrogance and imagination. Right now I’m struggling with trust with my girlfriend who has been nothing short of amazing. And there are days when I believe I can’t trust her, when I buy into it actually!” WTFM 🤷♂️
FACEBOOK “Too many people are concerned with profit rather than the welfare of the American family nowadays!”
If somebody fellin love with you DRUNK, why would they stay in love with you sober?
You “give” long enough without expecting, or wanting in return; and you eventually become [are transformed into] a “giver” not a taker; a “giver” not “a giver and a taker”.
Applying principles in our relationship doesn’t always guarantee success; mainly because many people are unprincipled!
With some telationships one is asked to give more than give and take. We must decide if we’re OK with that!
Delayed rxn. in life and in relationships and in recovery.
Some people go into relationships NOT KNOWING WHAT THEY WANT; NOT KNOWING WHAT THEY
Relationships are hard enough without having to come back from a damaged one!
FACEBOOK “Too many people are concerned with profit rather than the welfare of the American family nowadays!”
FACEBOOK “When you act rightly in a relationship, it helps to have a partner who is able to respond appropriately; Not every relationship operates from this dynamic!” 🤷♂️🤷♀️
That’s the thing, you can’t guarantee a response that is appropriate or sensible from mankind across the board! 🤷♂️🤷♀️
It’s easier and better to stay ahead of your relationship, and on top of it calm rather than to fall behind. It goes easier and is far better maintaining a positive relationship in your relationship rather than damaging it and then having to try and repair it and move forward. That’s what I’m trying to do today-keep the relationship as spotless as possible. Funny how many of us struggle to do that very thing. Once things start going South in a relationship, it can be very hard to turn back that moment on. Once there is the slightest bit of animosity or resentment in the relationship… And satan is a master of manipulation and exploitation of such circumstances for dining And satan is a master of manipulation and exploitation of such circumstances or dynamics! And remember Colin people far healthier and stronger than us struggle in relationships. So with regard to you and I who are weaker and unhealthy; We need all the help and advantage we can muster.
Some people appear to have a knack for matching calamity with Serenity; While others appear to have a knack for matching Serenity with calamity. 🙄🤔🤷♂️🤷♀️
FACEBOOK “Maturity is an essential part in relationships-and from what I can see of late in our country that seems to be lacking more and moreamong our people! Maturity and sanity are the true keys to successful living and relationships.
●MATURITY
●SANITY
●FLEXIBILITY
●TEACHABILITY”
FACEBOOK “Relationships, first and foremost, or perhaps only; teach us about ourselves and force us to grow; or fail in our pursuit of them!” 🤷♂️
Even among the “worst-of-the-worst”, the ““least-of-the-least” there is a no. 1. So 🤔, being no. 1 ISN’T ALWAYS SAYING MUCH. IN CERTAIN CIRCLES WHERE THERE IS ALWAYS A NO.1; SOMETIMES THAT’S NOT WORTH MUCH! TIMES CHANGE AND SO DO “THE PLAYERS”. 🤷♂️🤷♀️
With enough time; most of us can learn anything. But man is oft in a hurry.
FACEBOOK “Once upon a time, doctors and lawyers were among the poorest. They were considered to be some of the most important jobs among our societies. To charge prices that would make it impossible for most people to afford, seemed unethical – But not today; To go into such a critically important field for the money, seemed immoral – But not today.” 🤷♀️😔🤷♂️
FACEBOOK ☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆ “What do Oskar Schindler and Alcoholics Anonymous have in common?”
FACEBOOK “Please GOD help me to be ‘A GOOD SOUL!'” 😇🙏🏻😇
FACEBOOK “Very few people are Blessed with a relationship that is [seemingly] “Heaven sent”. And among those of us who have been; How many of us fail to recognize that they have? How many of us take away from that Blessing rather than add to it?”
FACEBOOK “Some people are not all that intelligent; but something inside of them defies [transcends] that reality -GOD!”
When a certain opportunity comes along and a person is ready for it, open to it -magic! I’ve had partners that were good to me -and I didn’t respond very appropriately. And I’ve had partners that I was good to -that didn’t respond very appropriately. People come into Alcoholics Anonymous and don’t pick up on the program and stay sober But then they come back years later and -a different story completely
FACEBOOK “If we really knew what some people’s relationships were like, some would come to realize how unfortunate they really are; while others would come to realize just how fortunate they really are! But this cut off is what leaves us in the dark; and brings about all sorts of misunderstandings, misdirection, lack of change for the better, lack of true gratitude!”
FACEBOOK “Some people have a knack for matching calamity with Serenity; Others have an act for matching Serenity with calamity.”
KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS:
● Keep things light*;
● Compliment and build each other up continually*.
*THE MIRROR-OPPOSITES TO THOSE THINGS 🤔 -WHICH TEND TO DESTROY; WEAR-DOWN RELATIONSHIPS**!
**Relationships require constant tending to [albeit some moreso than others].
Things Dale taught me:
■ Don’t be a know-it-all
FACEBOOK “All we have to do is be good to one another* – And all the world’s problems are solved!. But how we accomplish that; is the most important thing of all -GOD!!!!!!!!!”
*So, through simple deductive reasoning 🤔, one could conclude that the problem in the world quite simply is this: That at any given time; at any given place; regarding any given individual: THE VAST MAJORITY OF HUMAN-KIND: IS NOT GOOD TO ONE ANOTHER 🤷♂️🤷♀️]!
FACEBOOK “I realized last night with great clarity that 🤔: After years of counseling; and perhaps trying to get better for my own personal motives [you get into this sort of “groove” with regards to “self-improvement”]; you begin to recognize eventually, that at some point what remains, or rather 🤔, you begin to slowly come to the “quite astonishing realization” [as the scales begin to tip more and more] is… “MY OWN FLAWED; AND DISTINCT NATURE*!”.
*”MY OWN DISTINCT; AND FLAWED NATURE!”
FACEBOOK “We are who we are [or where we’re at rather 🤷♂️]. Some of us need that one special person know to bring out who we are. On the other end of the spectrum, there are others who are who they are with everyone. And sometimes, the former can become the latter through the help of that one special person!” ☺👍🏻
Everything is designed with us in mind. We’ll, some might argue otherwise lol
Can you live with choosing an inferior path to the one GOD laid out for you? Like it or not, most of us will inevitably. 🤷♂️🤷♀️
FACEBOOK “It’s a wonderful feeling; it’s a powerful feeling: Having hindsight 20/20 “with another opportunity laying out before you” [which doesn’t happen often enough -or would that be “just enough”]. I destroyed a couple of relationships that I really wanted. Now, I am in a relationship I really want, once again. Only this time, I know that: It’s mine to [scratch that]; It’s [almost] like being able to go back to those other relationships and make a different choice* [AH YES BY GEORGE 🤔 -THAT’S IT! 🤷♂️🤷♀️].”
*And how many of us have had that eery feeling of wishing we could go back; Wishing we could turn back the hands of time; Wishing we could do “a do-over”!
I don’t know about “nothing happens by mistake”: But I know that in GOD’S universe, on a spiritual level: That there aren’t many mistakes where good can’t come of it -with the right effort; and the right attitude!
Man quite often does things when he wants to calm up the way he wants to! This is the essence of self will. But not necessarily when and how the universe requires it. This was the beauty of turn of the century America-people who learned more or less to do the right thing when it was required or asked or even demanded of them for a short time. The flip side of this coin is that even when people do the right thing at the right time -certain individuals will react negatively because they themselves are not on board with the universe.
Some people have a great memory -when it serves them!
Alot of businesses could have raised their prices long before they did, and got away with it. But for various reasons; Poor management; No need to; Consideration for the public… THEY DIDN’T!
“Who’s the one NOT IN THEIR RIGHT MIND?” 🤔
What changes in you if you relapsed? Me -EVERYTHING!
“IM CERTAIN SOMETHING ISNT QUITE RIGHT!”
What’s going on with my family affects my attitude towards the world in general -and unfairly so. It affects my attitude towards GOD! It affects my attitude in my relationship with my girlfriend!
Reciprocate!
Make the world a warmer place not a colder place or an indifferent place.
People are actually stupid enough in this day and age to believe we don’t need one another.
There’s something really wrong with a whole generation or even 2 or 3 of them wanna go back to The Times they knew rather than The Times they live in.
If I wanted any more out of my GF than I’m already getting; it would be harmful; it would be infringing on GOD!
Maybe there are some things in my relationship I want to do that I can’t do. Giving and expecting nothing in return is the challenge with limitations for the majority of us as much as we would like to extend ourselves beyond our own capabilities what happens can turn out to be quite problematic.
Many people are unwilling. Many of those who are -don’t have the strength, THE FORTITUDE! So that leaves…???
OK here’s what I’ve come up with in half an hour lol, tell me what you think:
● I think we should keep everything as it is except we should open up communications at night. I’ve offered a couple of times in the past and you haven’t responded very is very significant. That’s a red flag for me. During the week when you have trouble sleeping I want you to reach out to me I think it will cement our band sense of security more. During the weekends I think there should definitely be some interaction. Especially given the lengthy period of time that you’ve go to sleep and awaken 10 hours plus.
● I don’t think we should simply manipulate the hours. That’s not going to broaden our foundation any. As our feelings are increasing we need more of a foundation. So coming over from 12 to 6 now and changing that from 3 to 9 to get in the later hours really doesn’t accomplish much in my opinion. I think we should set a couple of days out of the month where you stay additional time on a Friday night. Saturdays and Sundays were together all day so I think it’s OK that we just keep the hours the way they are to allow ourselves a little space and so you can get things done and visit with your son because he too is subject to only having you part time because of work and the time we also spend thereafter for a couple of hours. It’s only a couple of days out of the month, unless u want Fridays regularly. We can see how that goes and adjusted from there. If it’s a problem for him I’m not going to argue about it because until he finished the school I believe he is and should be your priority. But I also believe he is at that age now where he needs to start letting go a little bit. And if not now certainly between now and the end of the year we need to start considering that.
● The other thing that I feel is appropriate at this time is that you start considering the possibility of separation issues. I’m guessing given some of the experiences both the boy and the girl had early in life will bring about some developmental issues at some point. Possibly affecting his ability to move out on his own. Especially since he spends so much time in the home now and not out there actively interacting with the world. So that something you might want to prepare for. Something we perhaps need to be prepared for. I think I understand that the girl has been going to school and spending much of that time living with her stepmother? So another question raised is this, if Jack decides he wants to go to school and wants to do the live with mom thing in college… How do you and how the both of us feel about another 4 years?
● The other thing that I’ve noticed and observed over the years is that people have a lot of difficulty leaving this place. I get the feeling there’s a phenomenon here or a rut that is comfortable to people in this small town with all its problems. I want you to consider that if Jack does have trouble leaving once he is out of high school that the dynamic is going to shift. That for a number of reasons he will no longer and should no longer be the center of your world. That once he becomes a vage our relationship needs to take an equal footing in your life and no longer a back seat to raising your son. Not that it’s a matter of competition but that it’s the natural order of things and healthy for everyone. That you need to have a life and that the sacrifice needs to begin to taper off. And should we decide that that while in school he is going to stay with us that we are not gonna be tied to this dreadful area regardless of his desire to stay here with friends or familiar surroundings. I don’t want that to be another reason for us being stuck here. He will have to be the one to make the adjustments to our new life to a reasonable extent.
● And the last thing that just came to mind was that I love our intimacy together but I think this having to rush off afterwards is unsettling to the relationship. It’s been on my mind and I think we should be able to have evenings where we are not rushed after making love. 🤷♂️
WHAT THINK LUVEE?
●GOD KNOWS WHAT HEA DOING BUT WE OFTEN THINK WE KNIW BETTER -CAN WE SEE THE FUTURE, AL THE FACTS?
●GROWTH
●ITS NOT JUST ABOUT US
●Better to belive in GOD….
●Childhood experiences…
I used to say that if we had a real choice between God and our lives and not in our lives we should be able to be happy and farewell either way instead of needing GOD!
Partners who presumably are invested but fall asleep on you after a disagreement Sleep is generally the thing that is disrupted when somebody is. I’ll invest it early in the relationship if you have a disagreement and they just fall right asleep
Grumbling about the rising prices and still paying them is not sending a message to corporate America. Grumbling about it and not paying it is!Every time we paid these escalating prices, corporate America is thinking about their next move and what they can get away with next. What do people in places of power have to say about Christmas and Easter? Are they still places of high reverence or merely another day of the year for higher revenues and profits?Don’t you get it American public -the more you want something, and the more all of us want something, the higher the price you’re going to pay? The more you want something -the more it’s gonna cost you!Man looks at it from “a certain angle” GOD looks at it “FROM EVERY ANGLE”! GOD SEES TNINGS THROUGH THE EYES OF LOVE; Man on the other hand… 🤔Half the time man gets it wrong; the other half of the time he doesn’t care.We’re separated, GOD is not; THAT’S THE DIFFERENCE!The issue has always been “PERSONALITY” OR “POISONALITY”. Ray doesn’t impose personalityMan cannot make the sun come up but eventually perhaps he will.The fact that corporate America keeps taking away more and more of what once was.. Should give you some indication of just how good life was 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.When people care; it mattersHow can a person complain who has gotten more out of you than you have out of them? Some people manage to!It would not be entirely accurate to say that the world is full of “takers”. But to say it is full of takers and “non-givers” is more to the point. A lot of things about society bother me that don’t bother them. Like when people walk by and don’t talk to each other. So what should I do? Should I do something a little more radical so that they can feel the same way I do? Life is filled with indifferent people. But that irks the h*** out of me. What if I want them to feel the same way I’m feeling?
If people can show initiative when rubbed the wrong way -then they should be able to show initiative by being kind!
There’s 2 types of issues that arrise in relationships:
● People acting inappropriately;
● The other is people acting appropriately; and the other partner still having a problem with it or thinking it’s inappropriate*.
* And of course, we all have different ideas about what’s inappropriate and what’s appropriate which is very interesting considering that we are supposedly at the top of the ladder And of course, we all have different ideas about what’s inappropriate and what’s appropriate which is very interesting considering that we are supposedly at the top of the ladder among GOD’S creatures! You would think there would be more unification with regards to something so crucial. But man is a creature who loves to see things as he chooses -even to the detriment of his own welfare as a species!
Partners who presumably are invested but fall asleep on you after a disagreement Sleep is generally the thing that is disrupted when somebody is. I’ll invest it early in the relationship if you have a disagreement and they just fall right asleep
if some women can be open to men, friendly… and remain safe in the process 🤔, then why can’t all women?
■Jetlag, 100% committed, 100% present
■100% invested, our relationship we’ve decided is very serious
■100% access
People here in my experience are highly uninvested in their relationships -lethargic.
I’ve also known a lot of women here who cheated on their husbands an their partners. Have you had a lot of experience with infidelity? I have on both ends.
There is a difference between not responding to something in your relationship because you never had it in previous ones, and not being interested at all in that particular dimension or dynamic in that relationship. I like to engage my partner that I’m not living with sometimes in the middle of the night. Some people are not accustomed to this and their previous relationships and other people are not interested in. So that’s the difference. People who are interested but unfamiliar with it may take a while to get on board. People who are interested may show interest initially and then taper off.
As we grow older and our strength and agility and other things begin to wane… Things that offset are niabity and lack of experience. Our experience and ongoiing sense of wisdom should replace the younger things of strength and agility and so forth.
Many people in relationships get caught up in a cycle or a battle. And of course there partners begin to become resentful or lose respect for them even though they also are responsible how you from but people don’t often think about it that way. When their partner does something to rub them the wrong way they begin to push back rather than hold their ground anchor the relationship when it is drifting or unsteady.
FACEBOOK “Over time, you want your partner to develop greater love and respect for you -not less!”
If there’s no GOD then why are there trees and the moon and the stars and why is the sky so beautifully blue -so indescribably blue? Just try to imagine our world without these things. There are a lot of things that man would like to add to God’s perfect creation, but when you think about what he did give us come it’s very hard to imagine life without them wouldn’t you agree?
Actually, people in certain areas who would otherwise not tolerate their fellow human beings, do so because of Christ’s message!
GOD BLESS people; not [your] things]! 🤔
The greater the “fear” the greater the “Faith” required! Isn’t that “a good thing”?
Manipulate the heart, not the environment!
Never turn away from difficult situations -affording you the opportunity to do some good!
If Alcoholics have to do without alcohol in 10% of the population -then why shouldn’t homosexuals have to do without a relationship in 10% of the population 🤔 since GOD doesn’t approve of either -what’s the difference? Both love what they love and both are, or were, initially defiant to GOD and nature! Man has always rationalized and defied, God’s decrees.
You have a better chance of your property being spared by praying to GOD for the thieves themselves -rather than for your property.
Clone thieves. People create clones exactly like u to steal, i.e. go in bank get in box.
Animals have a basic code they all live by in order to survive. Why can’t we human beings? The answer is -because we are so advanced in certain areas we think we don’t have to be in others. We use compensation. Like for example com having a big army to protect us means that we don’t have to be United within the walls of our own country. Well that’s a bunch of c***. It also means we think we can get by without trusting one another. Well that’s a bunch of c***
I’m so tired of how we run around trying to lure or attract certain people -while trying to reject others at our own whim, peril…
Man was granted a free will by God himself-and oftentimes we like letting others know it!
It’s sad that so many people out there are willing to pay the price not to change. It’s sad for them, and it’s sad for us -who have and are. Because as long as there is someone in the picture who is not willing to change and pay the price, we will all continue to suffer. Because we all know such a person!
The more you are willing to accept -the less you have to change [you? PPT?]; The more you are willing to change -the less you have to accept.
Long underwear that keep you cool like the heated underwear but with freon.
I’ve spent the majority of my life trying to change the world, trying to change people. It doesn’t work. The fact of the matter is most people don’t want to change too much or too quickly. They definitely don’t want to change because of your will for them to do so in most cases.
We need to train and prepare each new generation for life. But not to the extent that they pose a threat to us in our own survival and thriving. NOTE: We humans are so preoccupied with our own well being. I know I am. I’m so worried about being hurt by another human being.
Are people doing what they do, do people feel forced to do what they do -based upon survival, or something more excessive? Most people in the world are trying to survive -but in this country, there are so many people trying to do so much more. NOTE: It used to be that people were occupied only with survival. Now it appears that as man evolves he has added a couple more wrinkles.
What do you need to do in this situation Rick? To support her in what she needs to do, and; still be there for her. Exactly!
When your partner is no longer invested or concerned -that is when you should worry. People call nagging -but it’s a vested interest no matter how you look at it. People call it being insecure -but it’s a vested interest no matter how you look at it
If you are worried about your partner’s welfare in a given situation -that’s love; If you are worried about their sexual conduct in a given situation -that’s ego!
I’ve heard the philosophy you never really know a person and I’ve also heard the philosophy human beings are capable of anything. I think I sort of have a policeman’s mentality who has seen too much of the wrong things and human being.
If you are completely trustworthy and I am struggling to trust you then there is a problem. But with 3 variables attached:
● The length of time we’ve known each other
● The job you do
● I have restrictions in your life you do not have any in mine.
* Is it the case perhaps that you need a stronger more confident man? Or 🤔 Someone who hasn’t seen the things I’ve seen and been taught by word or by deed to see the world so wickedly.
** I feel vulnerable
*** Waiting for the other shooter drop
**** If there’s a problem with me then let’s fix it 🤷♂️
*****Largely sexual or intimacy component in all this
******No strong family ties with family to counteract the Betrayal of other family members
*******classic mistrusts symptoms given my background
Maggie thinks she’s the problem but is she?
TRIGGERS????????
I find myself trying to evaluate if there are valid reasons for my mistrust or concern – Where am I being rational and where am I being irrational?.
☆☆☆☆☆ People who have trauma based trust issues in a society that is untrusting and doesn’t have trauma based trust issues??? What to do???🤔
From a certain context my life is transparent. No downtime in our communications and no restrictions on you’re coming and going in any area of my life.
“I’m certain something is not right; something is going on!”
When you’re chasing someone you don’t push them away! You push them away when they’re chasing you! But yyou can’t have a relationship like that!
People who tend to put a lot of trust or weight in themselves, tend to believe their own b******* rather than the facts before them!
You never know how your issues are going to effect or be received by your partner:
● Some people reject to them;
● Some people embraced them;
● Some people need them.
Every relationship presents its own risks. Except the one with GOD! 🤷♂️🙏🏻🤷♀️
Life will always present situations which require faith. People who lack this precious commodity have a hard time of it.
There’s faith that people will hurt you and their space that people will not hurt you. Each presents its own comforts and its own risks and it’s own consequences!
WHEN LIFE IS GOOD; satan takes us to another time, another place that isn’t. Sometimes being satiated servers his purpose; sometimes chaos and worry. 🤷♂️🤷♀️
I realized last night with great clarity that 🤔: After years of counseling; and perhaps trying to get better for my own personal motives [you get into this sort of “groove” with regards to “self-improvement”; you begin to recognize eventually, that at some point what remains, or rather, you begin to
A lot of things I’ve wanted in life have laid around come to pass. A lot of times Weaver forget we have been asked for them.. We even forget we asked GOD for them. Like awesome salt and pepper hair or silver hair -25, 30 years ago. 🤷♂️
Faith is something I’ve struggled with all my life. But not with faith you are going to screw me over. Go through life without faith and situations and life that require it is too make why make life hard going-just about impossible! Faith come I believe wove into the fabric of resistance. So much so calm that we cannot live without it and not suffer intense and severe repercussions. Now about giving: Basically comrades what it says it is. We give to give. When we give and receive or give to receive we’re not giving. When we look to get back more than what we’ve given, then we’re not giving we’re taking. 🤷♀️🤷♂️
We get flooded with b******* on the Internet, b******* offers calm and when the real ones come along we… When the real ones that are required by law come along come up with ignore them too and the individual tied to that obligation benefits -see how man works. It’s like being in the computer Tech business and flooding the market with viruses so people can call you and have you repair them. A lot of people are very devious and society. The thing of it is it doesn’t take many of them before we start feeling uneasy about the whole lot.
NEVER STOP REACHING HIGHER; DEEPER; IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP[S]!*
*JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING -INITIALLY- DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD “GIVE-UP” ESTABLISHING A NEW PATTERN IN OUR LIVES OFTEN PRESENTS A CHALLENGE!!! AND THAT’S PERFECTLY -NORMAL!
AA HAS NEVER ASKED ME TO DO ANYTHING HARMFUL, OR HUMILIATING* TOWARDS MYSELF, TOWARDS OTHERS!
*I’ve done plenty of things both harmful and humiliating, both towards self, and towards others!
IF YOU DON’T HIRT YOURSELF, OR ANOTHER HUMAN-BEING, YOU”VE GOT 90% OF THE AA PROGRAM DOWN! PERHAPS TOO “THE TEACHINGS OF “CHRISTIANITY”: OR IS IT 10% 🤔
pick a sponsor who shares experiences you can relate to, and; and who says things you don’t want to hear -lol
Very few people manage to “entirely-squelch” their true-feelings about things that bother>ed] them.
How can we expect God to protect… How can we expect God to protect our homes in our valuables when there are so many people out there poor and so many people out there sick and neglected in terms of their welfare and getting better?
My own parents and my grandparents on my father’s side never enjoyed a successful happy relationship. My Uncle’s relationship on my father’s side seems fairly successful and helpful. The relationship on my father’s side with his sister and her husband seems cold and at time unfriendly – So that doesn’t seem to give much positive history in relationships on that side of the family. And as for my mom’s side?
Growing up in an irrational home we learn or we can deduce as individuals I mean cothat even our own rational behavior and attitude may not necessarily be received as such. Appreciated or recognized.
Watching everyone is not the principle we want to live by in this country! -it’s most unaffective!
… It’s not just the way -made it but the way we’re made!
GOD, THE GREAT LOVER -HOW MANY PEOPLE SAY “OMG” WHEN CLIMAXING?
That’s why other people don’t get involved in others wrong doing – Fear of retaliation or reprisal! But there’s something greater to be gained than there is to be lost -always!
Man wants vengeance on the front end while GOD generally on the back end! Also, what man wants is not usually vengeance anyways. It’s actually a warped mixture of things.
There is stuff in the world grossly underprised!
Civilized people don’t fight over someone cutting in front of them in line. And civilized people don’t cut in front of people in line.
FACEBOOK “Man is very good at fighting and struggling for what he wants; but not so good at fighting and struggling against what he wants! Man is very good at seeking out satisfaction; but not very good at gaining merit!”
* Not so much what he needs!
FACEBOOK” “So many young and attractive people think they can get by with the outsides rather than the insides [By perhaps being present but not accountable or courteous]. It’s our fault for teaching them they can -in many instances!”
FACEBOOK “WE live in a society filled with egos and the constant thought of sex or that people have sex on their minds. You approach an attractive [American] woman* -and there’s a very good chance she’s either going to be egotistical or think you’re approaching or because you have sex on your mind. And this just creates barriers.” 🤷♀️🤷♂️
* If you listen to the interview about the song “American Woman” by Burton Cummings; you’ll understand this commentary.
● Instead of seeing my position as selfish or controlling, she sees it as an asset to the relationship or something worth going to the trouble of with regard to my own personal place in the relationship at the moment
● She’s willing to listen and make adjustments
● She’s not only invested but devoted
● She has a maturity to her that affords us “That affords this a type of relationship that would otherwise not be possible”
● She’s thoughtful, giving, supportive and complimentary •all things which build rather than tear [us] down!
● She keeps it simple, and light ▪︎ even though she is intelligent, and therefore highly aware
● Unlike so many before her, she is not shut down emotionally ▪︎ and she sees in me “things” few other woman have ever been willing or able to see
Being mistrusting is one thing; being a wimp is another.
The woman i am in a relationship with today tells me a hell of a lot about the women i’ve been involved with in relationships in the past. And perhaps other women out there I’ve been involved with in the past and can say the same.
Some people are not “love-oriented” towards humanity. They ate more “defensive-minded” or “offensive-oriented” even. This type of attitude-the latter two… ate easily recognizable and and only serve to perpetuate “a separatist-society”.
Be watchful for when you start “slipping away” from meetings -little-by-little!
I would ask GOD to take away all my defects if I thought HE would-but HE WON’T! IN FACT, “I HAVE ASKED”.
Why continually talk from, or about book in meetings when you call always do so on our own time!
FAITH: Highly geared towards humanity -for some odd reason given so many have been so unreliable, or; low in their standards!
You can us GOD as a tool, or; have a relationship with HIM!
●In childhood GOD… represented by “FLAWED-PEOPLE” who often spoke of GOD but were often hypocritical!
●Changing your starter! Self-sufficiency was fine as far as it went, but it didn’t go far enough!
2 kinds of learning fisabilities:
●Volitional
●Non-volitional
It’s absolutely dumbfounded that 🤔 there are people who are uncertain, or certain there is no GOD! Whose life hasn’t GOD touched??????
I have faith in man letting me down! Faith in drugs and alcohol!
Given our choices, given our past; why would any alcoholic want a punishing, or even “just” GOD!!!!
1st/3rd of my life was miserable at the hands of others, 2nd/3rd myself!
MY PUNISHMENT FOR “A LIFE OF DEBAUCHERY” AA [HOW TO LIVE RIGHT]!
People worry about things that don’t add up to nothing at all. Is there a rule that says you have to worry about things that do -I DON’T THINK SO -BESIDES 🤔 I’M SURE “THAT WORKS” FOR “SOME PEOPLE”! 🤷♂️
Some relationships have some cushion some don’t.
Many men don’t believe in blessings; they believe in profits! Many men don’t believe in faith; they believe in stockpiling.
When I came to Alcoholics Anonymous for the final time [I pray], I was through drinking; but I wasn’t through with all the drama by a long stretch!
The 2/2-rule;
● Took on too much –God never gives us more, but we often; 🤷♂️🤷♀️
● Didn’t take advantage of all the suggestions;
● #1‐offender –Resentment
● #2‐offender –Things start getting better; things start getting back to normal.
We live in a country, we live in a day-and-age where change [for profit, exhilaration…] is the order of the day! If only man would be willing to shine that light on his own character!
A Person with high expectations will think low of most people. A person with low expectations will think high of most people. And really seemed high of the best people. You see, it really works out better that way!
Give man a plausible reason for wanting to escape and he will take it and run with it. Aside from survival itself, life was fairly serene for many people in history and therefore there was no need to escape Additionally, they were busy trying to survive if you want to call that and escape. In today’s fast paced world full of stress and worry… Worry about trusting one another, Compounded by worry about things we have acquired and the fact that we are surrounded by so many people of low character and values trying to get it by whatever means they can This sets a lot of stress. And hence we tried to escape. We try to escape through constant change. We try to escape by running to things rather than one another -whom we seem to be running away from more and more. We run away by constantly doing rather than being as someone once stayed. We seek change even to the detriment of what already is working for us. That’s how badly we feel the need to escape. We even look for things to change that don’t need changing.
Oftentimes we’re critical of the negative things we see in life and in others – But perhaps what is an even greater transgression is being critical of the beauty GOD has created -LAYED BEFORE US!