I have met women who clearly have specific wants and needs. But when it came to my specific wants and needs they were either unwilling or unable to meet that meet them.

Or perhaps they were waiting to have their wants and needs met first by me. Typical behavior for an immature, selfish self-centered individual.

I’ve met many women who more or less have a set routine of giving. But when asked to do something outside of it – they are either incapable or unwilling. They basically did the things they wanted to and avoided the things they didn’t want to do. That doesn’t sound much like love to me. In my more recent relationships I’ve come to recognize love as -often doing things for people we don’t necessarily want to do. Men (and many women -only the more selfless ones however) are notorious for making sacrifices for their partners and their 👪.

It’s just a guess, but it seems to me that because of my low income, many of the women I dated didn’t feel the sense of respect for me I felt I deserved as a human being and as a person who, in many cases would go to great lengths to try and meet their needs even though I was highly limited in a financial sense. It may not be a very nice thing to say but in a lot of cases this is the attitude I was dealing with seem to be that of you meet my criteria first my criteria first and then I’ll go ahead and play ball with you regarding yours.

I think a lot of women also have a tendency to to weigh their options. When a guy when a guy isn’t meeting up to their expectations they tend to have an attitude in certain cases of I can do better and I will-bye. Having options doesn’t give you the right to be a cold, pompous ass. To some people human beings are like tomatoes, pick only the perfectly-ripe, firmest ones. I dated a gal in her early twenties, when I was in my early thirties… Is completely shallow. She would talk about anatomical body parts of a man -as if she were squeezing an avocado. We would have sex and afterwards she would make comments like “I needed that” cold cold cold. She lied to me on numerous occasions and after the fact simply said we’re not seeing each other any more so what is it matter. She once told me “get a clue”. One time I opened up and had a real laugh about something -she looked at me as if I was weird. She shamed me!

I’m learning that a lot of the women I dated when I was younger were very immature and selfish (as was I -but atleast I was trying -more than they were so it seemed)”. Now that I’m getting to know I need to know older women of my age and my later years of life….

*2 things I heard is a young adult male:

•You tried too hard**

•You’re too honest**

**A lot of women like what I guess could be termed of challenge. They don’t like a man who just lays out on the porch like an old hound dog. Or who comes when they’re called. In my personal experience it seems a lot of women would rather have an asshole than a push over for a partner. A piece of advice my old man gave me many years ago was this:

“When it comes to women, it’s better to be an S.O.B. than a fool”.

I’ve known women who seem very unselfish -but then I discovered it was more or of a routine where they had these set behaviors they exhibited. When a situation calls for them to do something above and beyond or different… they became agitated and their true nature, that of selfishness, would come out as well. I’m sure I’ve seen this behavior with men as well -but for me it seems to hit closer to home in the dating sector. My aunt would be another example of such behavior -she’ll do this this, this and this voluntarily, but don’t ask her to do this, or this, or this… or forget it!