I’ve noticed this time and time again, given that I have a tendency to accommodate people in a particular way – When people offend, they have tendency to feel guilt or shame or regret. In many instances, there ego looks to seize any opportunity to justify their own actions and thus relieve themselves of… If you retaliate, often in people’s minds that justifies their behavior -If nothing else, it makes you both even. I’ve seen people play this card over and over again. Of course this is nonsense, we are each accountable for our actions, and they are not to be dismissed simply because of another’s actions, or lack thereof!