With regards to keeping a relationship in tact, there are areas you can breach, and there are areas you cannot breach. There are areas you shouldn’t breach, and yet still have the relationship remain intact [this is purely subjective between individuals of course]. I have a tendency to breach both, all three! Which I suppose is the reason I am sober, single. There are people who are alcoholics, drug addicts, mama violent offenders, and yet they have relationships.