I remember in my recovery using the term “I”lot as opposed to “We”. I remember hearing comments or studies on people and how often they used “I” in a sentence or conversation (the point being self-centered people use “I” alot I suppose lol). My response to these studies? Lettuce just say that for a while there “I” started using “I” “I” “I” “I” “I” at the start of my sentences -Alkeyholics 😁

I realized some time ago -I don’t buy anything these commercials keep pushing on me. Do they really work on people? 🙆‍♂️

Once respect between two parties or that of an authority-figure, adult, parent and child… Is disrespectful as your child may be to you you must do your very best never to allow them to lose respect for you justifiably. If you do so all is lost and may never return.

Do you know when your mind is steering you down the wrong path or speaking to you of nonsense? It is a real art to be able to be more cunning than your own cunning mind or ego.

1 We want our lives back in 6 months (we take on too much)

2 We don’t take full advantage of the resources and suggestion in AA.

One of my Character-defects has never been indifference. It has caused me alot of pain and quite a bit of conflict with others! Some people don’t practice acceptance, they practice indifference -and they so very well!

it was about two years before I started to figure out “THIS THING MIGHT JUST WORK” And right about that time I also started figuring I was responsible for… MY OWN RECOVERY!

Before you go correcting, judging, or criticizing someone in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous for what they have to say -you might want to read the book or the manual 1st. If someone is sharing in a meeting and they are in line with the program and you are at odds with them then you are hurting this program!

Albert from 1989 with 50 years sober. I think he got sober in 1940

Alcoholics Anonymous is a million dollar program shut up your ass and nickel at a time

If you are speaking and some people are enjoying what you have to say and others are becoming frustrated or angry about it… chances are you are probably speaking something akin to the truth. Human beings tend to be split down in the middle with regard to truths interestingly enough. The one thing in the universe that is probably more more pervasive and powerful than anything else is the truth. Proof. Probably nothing else like it…… Welcome I mean some people like rocky road ice cream and some people don’t. But if you’re being an asshole nobody’s probably gonna like that – but as you ascend, The numbers go from unanimously negative to split.

You know how I can always tell the arrogant people from the humble people? I tend to get on the nerves of arrogant people rather quickly where as humble people seem to enjoy my…. I’m kind of like that angel that comes down from heaven disguised as… the one that arrogant people don’t want to have anything to do with or that is a bit difficult or troublesome is troublesome… Trying to determine which people are which here on Earth. Trying to teach impatient people patients….

When I started getting a little cocky and Alcoholics Anonymous set about 2 years sober… God pulled me aside and said, “Do you remember what it was like before you got here? Do you remember back when the harder you try to quit the more you ran toward your addiction? How much do you think you are responsible for the life of sobriety you have today?” I thought to myself 🤔, 10%? He said “Guess again.” 5%? He said “Guess again.” 2%? He said “that’s a little high but I’ll give you that.” And ever since then I’ve never forgotten it’s gotten which side of the bread my butter’s on! Where it is my true source of sobriety comes from! Everything I have comes from God! Thank you Lord

Alot of women assume you want to sleep with them -and some of you women at this very moment know this to be true!

•in many cases this is the case

•it’s a perfectly normal, natural desire that many women take offense to -try going through life not being wanted at all! So have maybe a little gratitude. A bit flattered?

A man invites friends and family over to share some truths, some wisdom.. Love you he has entertainment and it’s payment and the most wonderful food, entertainment …. But after all that is said and done, and it comes down to the real reason for the dinner…. Most of the people end up leaving.

I don’t show up to Alcoholics Anonymous for the food, the entertainment, the stories… I show up to stay sober and to accept what may come in the meeting as God’s will. You’d be surprised how many people in AA think otherwise.

Always root for the person you want to win and never against the person they’re playing!

When you see one person receiving preferential treatment… don’t seek to have that treatment taken away from them but seek to have that treatment spread out more liberally among yourself and others. A lot of people come in a very childish or selfish manner complain when they see someone else being treated better. The only depth of mind and spirit taking accomplishes that of having the other person reduced to their own level rather than seeking to have they themselves raised up to that level they are witnessing.

Look for a person with a big ❤ not a big house, or fancy car -as it was told to me a very long time ago… @ best, men and women are cut from the same piece of cloth (as much as certain would like to think otherwise) – @ best, from different ends! Men want things, women want things -and however meritorious one sides wants may appear to be (over the others), the flaw in both instances is “self-serving” by nature! Oh sure, many women want a monogamous relationship (unlike many of their counterparts). Sounds like a beautiful thing right? But what else do they want? Many women want to live well. Some flat-out want to look good (in their partners car, on their arm… -hey, don’t look at me, the fact that women are highly competitive, and egotistic -I got that from talking to other women).

Many women think men are stupid when it comes to understanding a woman -that is, figuring out what they’re up to. The weaker of the species always has to rely on intellect and/or cunning. Well they’re not gonna win in brute force.

People in the town I live in… call it racist, call it biased, call it prejudiced, call it gender-bias, age-bias… I see a lot of males in this town within a certain age group that act with hate towards one another, or contempt! They don’t act that way with children and they don’t act that way with the elderly. And I see the exact same thing with a large group of women in this town as well. They put up a front door a wall that’s not there with children and with the elderly. I see a lot of women drop that wall, but not (necessarily) the front with other women -peers. These are simple observations I’ve made over the past 35 years living here. Whenever I walk out my front door -and see my first human-being, I always wonder what I’m going to get; a smile, ignored… about 98% of the time I get ignored. I don’t experience these kind of lawpsided numbers when we go to California or to West Virginia -how did I ever end up in a place like this?

I notice a lot of times when a couple or a family are standing at the crosswalk and I stopped to let them pass – The man will say thank you and the woman will just walk past as if she’s entitled. Maybe we ought to work on that in this community.

I remember we (Ana and I) went to a ball game with my brother – Chargers versus Raiders, make that raiders versus Chargers as the Chargers were the home team for that game. After the big riot we proceeded to the vehicle and pull out of the parking lot – This woman steps out in front of the vehicle with her nose in the air, doesn’t bother to look either way or make eye-contact and communicate… my brother made the comment “She thinks she’s entitled”. Hey, he said it I didn’t! But I remember many times seeing the same scenario played out in my own town. The question is why? Why do people act this way? And why are an inordinate number of them women? Is it a cultural thing? As in the United States! Why do so many women refuse to acknowledge, or even use simple basic mannerisms when dealing with men? Years ago I told a woman she seemed bitter. Her reply “You men make us that way”. In another incident, I was at the Sam’s Club one day with Ana. This woman was coming down the aisle with a couple of teenage daughters… There was something about the look on her face that was reminiscent of women where I live as women as we were visiting the neighboring city that afternoon. So I was a little bit slow and moving out of the way from where I was standing as she approached me with her cart – She made no effort to slow down and I jumped out of the way and turned to her and said “you almost hit me”. Her reply, “I’m not waiting on no man”. This is the kind of attitude I encounter quite often in my area though it seldom reaches this to this level… What I’ve learned over the years is that there’s far too many of them to address!

Ana and I went to the Walmart here in town recently – We approached one of the aisles and there were a couple of different people coming from different directions. One young lady, Hispanic, about 38 years old looked at the 2 of us as we waited to allow her to pass -snubbed her nose at the two of us and walked past without so much as a thank you. The interesting thing is I had the same thing happen about 2 weeks earlier and I had already mentioned that story to her previously. For those of you who are what thinking I’m a woman hater… I’ll just say this, with regard to the bitterness and attitude of many of the women in this local area I must confess that from what I observed and heard through the years, many men in this area do not treat women with due respect. I have to confess, is an angry young man with very few scruples, I too am guilty of contributing to some of that bitterness and anger. 😔

I’ve never met a woman who deserved to get hit but I’ve met plenty who have who have asked for it! Some women provoke men into anger relying on the fact…. Daring them to…!! That’s not very smart! If I have an issue with a man much larger than me, depending on the circumstances I’m going to think twice about getting into a tussle – My old man once told me “choose your battles carefully -you don’t want to lose an eye for no good reason”.

All of these issues I’ve brought up come down to one thing – What do we do about them!

Awareness can be a good thing! Self-awareness can be a good thing… when used for such things as self-accountability, humility… But when they are used to inflame our egos or to stand in judgment over others… I notice that quite often in the little town I live in, people are very aware -and very self-aware… however, in many instances, these people are neither humble nor unselfish… They’re leery, and very quick to stereotype!*

*Having lived in this town for some 35 years I noticed a lot of hispanics are racist against their own race. I notice a lot of Hispanic women dating dating white men. I noticed a lot of Hispanic women dating white men. I even knew a Hispanic woman who flat out admitted she refused to date Hispanic men. I believe it had something to do with her father and her mother’s marriage -and his conduct? A lot of Hispanic men in this area are known for their infidelity and their tempers. A lot of women in this area who have been married and have and have children have given up on men altogether and gone to women 🤷‍♂️ Between the men in this town who are servicing multiple women (a by-product of “machismo”)* and the women in this town who have gone lesbian….. Let us just say I’ve been single for 4 1/2 years and that doesn’t seem to be changing any time soon.

*Women have a certain standard when it comes to men that only about 10% of the male population realistically live up to. And another 30% are pretenders….. And these are the men women have a tendency to gravitate towards. The 10% of course are legit, and honest – which is part of the reason they’re legit. That other 30%, the faker’s… they have a complex, and are out for whatever they can get, as often as they can get it -any way they can get it. So what you have are a bunch of women running around satisfied by men like this -running around, acting like they don’t need anything, or anyone… Then slowly coma as they come to find out in certain cases… they become bitter. But it’s our own fault for insisting on the type of guy… They don’t want a regular guy who in many cases happens to be honest and humble.They try to go for the cream of the crop -and get burned -whenever we place ourselves ahead of others… 🤔

Well anyways, what happens in a community such as this is you get an over abundance of women who perceive themselves as being satisfied and which develop an attitude of “I don’t need anything or anyone”. Or, you end up with an abundance of women who have been burned and with an attitude of “screw men”. I see both running around here all the time. Why do you think I’m single 🤷‍♂️ I make no effort whatsoever to compete with these men with their fancy perfume their fancy cars and their fancy clothes. And you know what, women hardly notice me! Oh well, just keep doing what you’re doing and you’ll keep getting what you’re getting!

•Title credited to song of same name: “I Missed Again” is a song from Phil Collins‘s debut solo album, Face Value (1981). Writer(s): Phil Collins.

Just because you know -doesn’t mean everyone else does! Just because its’ obvious to you -doesn’t mean its’ obvious to everyone else! Think about it! 🤷‍♂️