Some people are drama-queens, some people are peace-and-quiet-queens!

WE TIE GOD’S HANDS!

Be a good caretaker!

George orwells 1984. They always use tragedies like 911 and the welfare of the masses has excuses to take away our freedoms.

I switched roles in my relationship that I witnessed as a child growing up between my dad [drinking, drugging, womanizing, gambling] and stepmother [co-dependent?]. When I was drinking and drugging I was my dad. When I got sober I became my stepmom to the women are you had been involved. The only thing is is that the women that I was trying to make better, in many instances they had common issues not uncommon ones like my father. They had normal issues that many couples struggled with but I didn’t know this. The model that I grew up with was that somebody in the relationship always have to be fixing someone. With my grandmother and me, with my behavioral issues as a young boy, my grandmother’s job was to fix me. 🤷‍♂️

I think much of my “problem” (Donvan’s Echo 32:40) is that I’ve always had an agenda and people being the creatures they are [especially women] pick up on that. When a person is disadvantaged, and are already suffering from said disadvantage, you develop, among other things “an/the agenda”.

People who have problems handling excess -GOD tends not to afford them this luxury or this privilege or this responsibility

There are good people in the world 🌎 and not good people in the world 😕 and regarding encountering both on at regular intervals-some find it very difficult to adapt.

How does one become aware of something they are unaware of?

A person decides they want to be the world’s greatest tennis player at a very young age 🤔 as luck would have it they grow up to be the perfect height of 6’2″. How does that work out? And thus he does! Not me 😏

For most of us, relationships are probably as much about making them work as they are about finding that right person. If you’re looking for the right person but you lack the skills to make a relationship work, which is usually what happens in a lot of cases, then where do you think you will find yourself when the going gets rough? Most people put on their best dress personality wise come we fall in love with them, and then we start to find cracks in the plan We so carefully worked to cmap out and achieve. I would say that the key to a long term relationship is more about the ability to work through the struggles most of us will encounter through fate, life, God’s plan for growth and maturity in us, personalities… Supposedly finding the right person is no guarantee of a lasting relationship – A lot of things can change, and probably will. A strong commitment and the ability to accept, along with the ability to work through problems pieceably, at least on your part. You may not have a partner and capable are willing to do the same things. Most people have the wrong idea about a relationship. I thought it was something magical that would make all my problems go away and fill the emptiness inside The fact of the matter is they are the most difficult thing for a human being to human being to succeed at in most cases. They are the thing that spurs us to grow and complete ourselves right oaks rather than to remain stagnant and hope that the other person will magically make all our cares and worries disappear. We learn more about ourselves in relationships than perhaps anywhere else. 9 times out of 10, if you’re choosing to get into a relationship you’d better expect better expect a lot of struggles and hard work and even pain. If we truly care about people comment the more of them we let into our lives the more we carry not just to enjoy they bring us but the pain they themselves will suffer. Relationships are hard, challenging, disappointing as well as the other things we hoped they would be over the long-haul [sometimes]. Now that I had an opportunity to observe certain other relationships unlike the one I grew up around with my father, I realized that there were many instances, many relationships I was involved involved in where the right thing to do was to work through things calm not to try to control them, not to try to get rid of the person subconsciously, not not to walk away because there was something about this relationship that was inherently different from every other one out there in the world. Many of my relationships were probably very similar to many relationships elsewhere. But I didn’t know this at the time. The loneliness I live with today in my apartment… the anger and the frustration and the pain… God keeps telling me “You had your chances you had your chance as you had your chances.” I think my attitude was that looking at my dad’s relationships and the problems they have problems they had calm on my attitude was that I didn’t want to have a relationship with problems. And the other thing is that the issues I was having in my relationship’s, what was echoing throughout the globe was welcome to the club. But people don’t air out their dirty laundry in front of you so you think you’re the only one. If you don’t have any close friends, you never get to hear that their lives are much different from yours or vice versa. The struggle in relationships is individual to that relationship. Some of us have it easier than others.

Male competition

I’m beginning to see the logic, the benefit of just going through other people’s lives without is out making any waves. Walk through life like a gentle breeze through other people’s lives.

The thing I could never understand about my dad was why at some point didn’t he get help. It’s understandable in our society to have issues from our childhood, but do not do anything about them?

GOD doesn’t drop down from the heavens every time we screw up and neither should apparent with their children.

There’s 2 kinds of adjustments we are obliged to make. The ones were we’re wrong and other people are telling us about it. The ones were not wrong but we need to make those changes none the less to keep the peace. To keep the relationship intact.

Sone people are just being who they were raised to be, and sometimes that’s turns out to be a good thing for them. Others have to struggle to become something other than what they were raised to be if they are to stand any chance of… now which do you think is more difficult to achieve?

Few things worse than an inability to learn; but one might be an inability to change!

With that outlook [and attitude] towards humanity it will be very difficult to succeed within it!

Evolution without discipline is…

Sometimes God allows or gives us what we want to show us it’s not really what we want.

One man’s great dilemmas “what can I do about it?”

You can make certain mistakes and still succeed; you make certain mistakes and not succeed.

God does precisely what he does with numerous intentions; to affect numerous areas in HIS universe. Man oftentimes, viewing the universe says something which should revolve solely around himself, wanrs one thing and one thing only. To please himself!

But we feel most vulnerable calm when we feel the need to clean to those things which in our mind are going to bring relief or safety or an elevation of one’s battered ego; And God fails to meet these demands, these legitimately perceived needs and in the manner in which we deem them – That is oftentimes where the rift between God, and in certain cases where our own beloved fail us as well, this is where the rift often takes place. Not knowing when and where precisely we should be compensated, Ultimate reasoning with regard to how we should be compensated! When you decide to follow God be prepared for 2 things:

•His will done to you in the strictest sense [for growth -if you follow HIM be prepared for extreme episodes of growth and purification];

•satan coming at you full bore!

Ant rely on people entirely; can’t rely on GOD to meet everyone of our demands; But you can rely entirely in Satan to assist us in our demise.

Rule number 2

You can only hope to alter people’s [sorely-had to look up to be sure of meaning AFTER GOD put it in me without me consciously recalling it’s meaning] behaviors, attitudes with truth [love?].

GOD should always be viewed with love and gratitude -HE NEVER MAKES DECISIONS TO HARM OR ABUSE HIS CHILDREN. HE often finds HIMSELF UNABLE TO ACT WHERE HE WOULD OTHERWISE DO SO [due to us, others tieing HIS hands].

People seldom exceed their own natural abilities; but often fall short of them!

If you are in the presence of perfection then any issue you have must be within you solely.

Some of the greatest minds in the world ponder(ed) the meaning of life just as so many of the rest of us do to no avail -and yet, it is right their in front of us! 🤷‍♂️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️

A fragile ego along with various rather non-spiritual aspects woven into one’s being have wrought terrible consequences in our 🌎 throughout man’s history!

Painstakingly, we ask ourselves why things are the way they are, why GOD has failed us when in fact it is of our own [un]doing. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷‍♂️

Imagine a world where we reap precisely what we sow. Save for a lack of immediacy in most cases and, a loving GOD who often shows mercy in place of justice!

People are largely reactionary; but also not entirely sensible in their reactions! 🤷‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

We all have a signature! That signature effects people acutely! And then of course, there is in turn our own processing of those reactions and how they match up to our own expectations of how we want to be received, treated etc… alot of people don’t care for the reactions they inspire! Butt, WHAT WE PUT OUT WE WILL CONTINUE TO RECEIVE. And what we put out there and receive back as a consequence is largely favorable to some and largely unfavorable to others. Good or badd, for better or for worse, this formula for the most part appears to be immutable. . And it is unlikely in most cases that people will change their reactions in spite of you remaining the same. In some cases people are good and they nonetheless reap what is disdainful to them, hurtful to them. In this case they should hold fast to their being. In other cases people are not so good. In this case they should seek to make changes to their person.*(**)

Limitations in mankind often result in limitations in a variety of relationships. Feeling shutout…

*People appear to have a window. You’re too bad to them they respond badly/poorly. You’re too good to them they respond badly/poorly. Staying somewhere in the middle appears to garner the safest and largest number of positive responses [the typical person doesn’t react well to extremes -extremely sick people in our society, extremely successful people in our society, extremely loving people in our society]. 🤷‍♂️

**Moods (thoughts, agendas…) give off certain pheromones that mammals detect.

If what we choose to be is too out of line with society’s norms, however good or benign that choice may be, allot of people are not going to be accepting of it, accepting of you. I have often wondered why certain people who to a certain degree are assholes can have so many people in their life?

With regard to most of us, OUR IMPACT ON 🌎 IS FAR BELOW OUR GOD-GIVEN CAPABILITIES; AND FAR LESS THAN IT SHOULD BE BASED UPON CHOICES STEMMING FROM SELF-WILL.

There’s 2 kinds of people in the world:

•The one whose family have nothing but good things to say about them;

•The ones whose family members prefer to keep their own opinions to themselves.