If Ana can’t find it within herself to care about me the way I care about her, as much as I care about her… 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️ This is one of those instances where the person who wins feels like they’re losing -and the person who’s losing feels like their winning (Ana would say of my family regarding their attitude, their treatment of me at times and how it affected me, “It’s their loss!”)? -sorta (I’m sure she thinks she’s making the right decision and maybe she is -we both discussed how we lost so much in all of this -and gained some valuable wisdom through it all). You can never lose by loving someone unconditionally (it’s the closest I believe I’ve come anyways). But you may suffer more!

Mind games -People do other things to take the edge off of their feelings besides drugs and alcohol.

People often downplay friendship in a relationship; or friendship outside of a relationship; when the basis of all relationships first and foremost -should be friendship. So if you end up with a friendship that that didn’t work out as a relationship…. reconsider before you throw it away! In my case, if I couldn’t have what I wanted, I walked away… If I couldn’t have what I wanted, I hurt them the way they hurt me regardless of whether or not it was intentional on their part. I lost a lot of potentially good friendships -because it was all or nothing to me.

I believe there is such a thing as being too good to people. Some people don’t deal with it too swell

I believe that some people are unwilling or unable to make their relationship the most important thing in their life-whether they admit to it or not. God’s way or… if you insist on having it your own way -make sure the other person is too; or you, them, both may be in for a world of hurt.

My pattern in relationships has always been that of a great devotion… I may not have a lot of money and so forth…. But what I have I’m willing to give of, and my time I’m willing to give of. The women I was mostly involved with refused to show me that same -devotion, consideration… Then I would get upset. I should add that in many cases I felt like a second thought. Ana was very different in that regard -atleast until her family came into the picture – I told her many times “You have to stand by the people who stand behind you -not the people who don’t stand behind you -just because they’re family. But it was to no avail -some people are just built that way I suppose. My mother who was adopted, longed for the parents she never knew. My brother Jamie who is adopted -could have cared less about the family he never knew (all he cared about were the people who stood behind him when he needed them most).

I know for a fact that I treat Ana better than her husband treats her -when I get frustrated -I probably treat her worse than he does too 😏. But she used to say quite often when I was very calm in our relationships -that I showed no emotion -and hence I didn’t care about her.l (boy did she open up a can of 🪱). I know now looking back 🤔 at many of the women that I was in relationships with -I treated them far better than their husband’s did -and they always went back.Think about it 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️