Looking at Daisy pawing me for affection – I think of how many obstacles we human beings place between ourselves and one another. Within ourselves (from the inside out -we self-impose…), between ourselves and one another (from the outside in -we deny our selves others…), and between one another and ourselves (others deny us…). 😔

•Line from “Rock and Roll“, a song by the English rock band Led Zeppelin, which was first released as the second track from the band’s fourth album in 1971. The song includes a guest appearance by the Rolling Stones pianist Ian Stewart. [Source:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rock_and_Roll_(Led_Zeppelin_song)].

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Q&A (comment)

Good post however I was wanting to know if you could write a litte more on this subject?
I’d be very grateful if you could elaborate a little bit more.

Cheers!

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Goodmorning. And thank you for your question and interest. Uhm 🤔, As creatures with a free will like none other creature on the planet, We can choose to follow our instincts or veer from them (seemingly) at will in many cases. The world is filled with the misuse of self will which when put in another way, Is filled with people making choices that veer away from the normal, from the natural, from the healthy, from the creator’s original intention… The most normal and natural thing on the planet on the planet should be to love and to be loved. But instead, many of us are filled with fear and pomp. We’re out of balance with our basic nature. And this is all due to our self will and our reactions to those around us thus which sets off something of a chain reaction. The end result is:
•a world filled with people who only think they are giving and receiving love when it is something else, an entirely different motivation.
•A world filled with people who seemingly have too much love -while others have none at all. Instead of loving one another we decide who we wish to love and who we do not wish to love. This this throws everything out of balance.
My comment with regard to our little Chihuahua Daisy was an example of how she simply asks for what she needs – In spite of the fact that I am not a perfect owner or companion to her. We can learn a lot from God’s other creatures if we are open to it. Sometimes we human beings think too much and love too little. I hope this has been helpful -Best Wishes my friend 🙏

Daisy, our little Chihuahua -Depends on Ana and myself for everything. This thought keeps going through my mind the past few days I’ve had her here with me “If I were to grow tired of her, or in a fit of rage drive her away or even throw her out (into the street)…” That thought breaks my ❤ -and yet, I have done to human-beings many a time in my early relationships/friendships 😔 (in some cases with little thought or remorse -ahhhh self-justification). I don’t know why this thought has been with me these past few days -old fear that in a few days she will be gone and I will be the one abandoned*? In my younger days, it was gonna be you that gets hurt before me. As you mature, and grow in (real) love -you tend to do things the other way around. 😘

*When I was younger, I didn’t struggle with fear -I struggled with terror. Like a 100′ tidal wave crashing down on me. These days, that wave is seldom more than 7-8′ tall.

•Title taken from film of the same name. Please Don’t Eat the Daisies is a 1960 Metrocolor comedy film in CinemaScope starring Doris Day and David Niven,^[3] made by Euterpe Inc., and distributed by Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer. The movie was directed by Charles Walters and produced by Joe Pasternak, with Martin Melcher (Day’s husband) as associate producer.^[3] [Source:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Please_Don%27t_Eat_the_Daisies_(film)]

Sidenote: In recovery, two very interesting dynamics take place:

1.Our problems seem to shrink, dissipate

2.We become stronger

Now just think about that for a moment! 🤔 (two very different dynamics taking a person in the same -wonderful direction).

• (Joe Don Baker) “Hey Grady. What about you? Are you just gonna let them throw me in a hole and bury me?”
• (Bruce Glover) “What am I supposed to do? He deals the cards — I just play the hand I get”
• (Joe Don Baker) “Well, go find yourself another game.”*

“Ooh there it is again!”

“What?”

“The system! You gotta live my way -or you don’t live.”

*Alcoholics are not the only ones who take “the easier softer way”.

•Excerpt taken from the movie Walking Tall, a 1973 American semibiographical action film of Sheriff Buford Pusser, a professional wrestler-turned-lawman in McNairy County, Tennessee, played by Joe Don Baker. The film was directed by Phil Karlson.^[2] Based on Pusser’s life, it has become a cult film with two direct sequels of its own, a TV movie, a brief TV series, and a remake that had its own two sequels. [Source:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walking_Tall_(1973_film)]

Alot of things are dismissed (out of context) simply because they are too difficult. Admit it -the reason for your attitude towards… is that it is simply more demanding than you are willing to bare. The Bible and its’ teaching are probably the most sweeping example.*

*If you look at what Olympic athletes (the epitome of total dedication) -how many of us take anything close to that to ❤ in any given area of our lives? One would think that the most difficult thing (to master our selves) a human being can accomplish in this life would likely require a Herculean or Olympic effort. But let’s face it, most of us just don’t have it in us -which can only result in failure!

There are some fine people in this world! I hope someday to be able to walk in their shadow at least.

•Title taken from song of the same “Traces” is a 1968 song by the American rock band Classics IV. Released as a single in January 1969, the cut served as the title track off the album of the same name. Written by Buddy Buie, J. R. Cobb, and Emory Gordy Jr. [Source:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traces_(song)]

I saw this movie and thought…

•Doesn’t the child have a say-so?

•Which is more important to a child’s welfare, blood or emotional ties (now vs later)?

My mother was adopted, both my brother and sister spent time in foster homes… so this is my second-hand experience on the Subject:

•My brother appeared to care less about his biological roots!

•My mother seemed somewhat obsessed regarding hers!

So, in the movie, which would have been the right choice? Well if you simply play the odds (I have no clue what the odds or ratios are)… But I can say with reasonable certainty that would prefer to grow up with their people (biologically speaking), while others would likely prefer to go to a loving home -even if that means separation from their biological family*.

*My brother seems to place much more weight on the foster parents who offered stability vs the biological parent(s) which offered little stability -and also gave him up in the first place (made a ward of the state actually -both of us were).

•Title taken from the film of the same name. Losing Isaiah is a 1995 American drama film starring Jessica Lange and Halle Berry, directed by Stephen Gyllenhaal. It is based on the novel of the same name by Seth Margolis. The screenplay is written by Naomi Foner Gyllenhaal. [Source:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Losing_Isaiah]

1)Love -the kind we are all familiar with (most anyways)!

2)L.of.E. -the kind we are all-too-familiar with (Lack-of-Effort).

•Title credited to Bill Conti song of same name featured in the film “Rocky ll” (1979). Sung in cameo appearance by “Frank Stallone & the Streat-Beats”.

There’s 2 kinds of people in the world: One I absolutely hate (figure of speech); the other i absolutely love (not a figure of speech).

1.The one’s who can make you feel like your problems are no big deal (are solvable).

2.The one’s who can make you feel like your problems don’t matter (to them).

When Daisy, our little Chihuahua wants love, SHE SIMPLY ASKS FOR IT! How many of us are afraid ask for it -and (in some cases) with good reason. Perhaps the most important thing to us is also the thing we fear most -asking for!*

*Which brings to mind another thought 🤔. “With regard to sharing with others our deepest, darkest secrets… the harder ones are the one’s we benefit from most!

So what’s the common thread here? The things of the utmost importance to us, the utmost benefit to us -we fear the most!**

**The same thing that allows the alcoholic to survive his or her Alcoholism decade after decade, is the same thing keeps them from taking that next crucial step in their own recovery decade after decade! 🤷‍♂️

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